ok i've got most of my sizes except for panty sizes in mens brief's it's xl but what does that translate to in womens sizes please help thanks.

You need your waist & hip measurements. I think panty sizes are (more or less) standardized. Better than dress sizes, anyway.

Here's JCPenney's size chart. The link worked as of this post; I can't guarantee they won't change it.

11-14 would be a size 38 to 42 waist. should be just about right.

*edit correction

so acording to the size chart i'm a xl/8, but here's the pants size its a waist 42 hips 30 or i think 42/30

Found this through google. It may help you.

http://www.freshpair.com/sizing.html

In using a size chart for panties be aware that most men and women are shaped somewhat different.  For most women the hip size is generally the more crucial measurement, but for most men paying attention to the waist measure will generally give you a better fit.