Loss of A Child: Another Perspective
Posted December 15, 2008

http://radnichole.wordpress.com/2008/12/15/loss-of-a-child-another-perspective/

I received the following by email on Friday. I thought it was an excellent follow-up from a different perspective about women losing our children. My friend will go unnamed and unidentified. She has granted me permission to publish her essay here.

I found her letter poignant and very much worth sharing with others.

Her perspective is not yet my own and I count my great fortune for that. Losing children through antipathy to how one must make her way through the world is, perhaps, as devastating in it fashion that losing a child through death. Certainly the losses are terrible to experience. Yet, many women and men of transsexing histories have these experiences. My tendency is to agree with my friend that the experiences are allowed and even encouraged by a transphobic social norm that gives innate "unfit parent" status to anyone who transsexes in all too many jurisdictions.