Hi everyone,

I guess I am making another topic about my gender. I feel that my behaviour and feelings change as i interact with different people. I feel very much a female when I am talking to guys. however, when I am at home with my family, I bascially feel like a male and I wasnt REPRESSING myself. And sometimes, I feel really crappy and I feel very male and I just don't care about anything. It's so confusing....I think all people are androygenous to an extent.. How can i tell who I am when "I" am always changing? I am also not satisfied with my body everytime I compared myself to a woman's body..it's just so frustrating but at the same time, I enjoy masturbation. AH.  Sometimes I think I want to be a female to escape the male gender roles and sometimes I feel really weird when I put things in my chest. It looks fake and I hate my fake boobs. I really wish I can be a woman trapped in a male body , that , believe me, would make it easier for me to decide on what I should do.

I suspect that if you ask ten people what gender they feel like and why, that the why of the answer would be different for each.

At the very least I am quite sure I have no idea what a male feels like, and equally I do not know what a female feels like. I do, however, know what I feel like.

I realise that is not much help, so consider looking for what gender you are by not looking at what gender you are

Perhaps see who you relate to best, and in what role you feel most natural.

As far as I know there are no activities that determine if you are a girl or boy or not; It is quite possible to have boys who knit and girls who fix cars. (etc.)

Perhaps pay attention to what parts of your body you do not like, if any, and why.


Really the basic idea, I suggest, is to ignore your gender and figure out what you like... and from that see if it points to any gender or the like. ... perhaps that would give you a useful perspective?

Hey almost every type of gender test I take I score somewhere in the Androgyenous area
Nothing wrong with that...

But if you analyze your post you seem to be male (or act & think male) around people and situations that would make everyone else more comfortable around you...sort of like still living your life for others instead of living your life for you baby...I think in some way were all guilty of this at times when I am around my brother I find myself tending to act more....... well masculine....... I think it's because he was the strongest male influence on me and he still sees me as his little brother. Am I androgyenous Yes and so be it But I am still very much a woman to my core.

As for the masterbation thingie hell...when I had a sex drive I loved and still do when my BF does it for me!!! SOOO..........ummmm

Chynna

Chynna, yeah . I also think it is because I am just used to being a male, i also dont like it when i have to overcompensate when i want to pass as a girl.. i feel like a fake. I just want to be myself, but when i do that, I don't feel that I pass..

hard on yourself aren't you!!!

When you try to hard is actually when you don't pass

just relax and be you and enjoy the moment girlie

Chynna