Lola, you have a beautiful outlook and to stand by Mia through this makes you a special person. The lying I did to my wife for 25 years was probably the hardest thing for her to get through and for a long time she viewed those years as a betrayal and our marriage a lie. If there was a way to take back her pain I would have gladly done so. We are now after a year starting to work through our problems as friends. I do not believe we will ever be romantically involved again. I hope you and Mia both find peace in your hearts. Hugs

Wendy

Thank you Wendy,

But I can't take any curtain calls for sticking with Mia, she such an amazing person I'm really doing the world a disservice by keeping her all to myself.

As for your wife I am so sorry. I myself was surprised and said: "I just can't." then I thought about it and decided to stay, I'd miss her too much and I didn't consider our relationship time prior to that (six months) a lie. I have however experienced the whole 'my whole life is a lie' dilemma (in relation to a disclosure regarding my immediate family) and it's a horrible feeling, like you spent your life in a dollhouse and finally find out this fact while looking the window when a ginourmous 7 year old walks by. It must be so lonely to be single after 25 years of being married but the fresh start perspective is a good way to stay positive and motivated while searching for new prospects After all I found Mia during my 'fresh start'.