Hi,

Sorry I haven't been writing on here in a while, I've got exams coming up .

Anyway. Recently I've been very near to falling over the edge and coming out, which is what I've needed, and I would rather not state.

Being the organised person that I am, I'm using resources to help me and to help my parents understand what it is - destroying the myths and giving them the truth. This will hopefully create a small booklet. O dear I'm sad .

I've got quite a few resources off the internet but I may need more.

Does anyone think this may help me?

My parents are very caring of me and I don't want to hurt them in anyway and I feel that this method would be a great source of help to help them on understand.

Sarah

It's been a few years since I came out to my mother.  I recall ordering a book for her that dealt with MTF transition.  I'm so sorry I can't remember the name of the book or author!  But the point is, what you are doing is a good idea.  My mother received the book in the mail and actually read it.  Some weeks later, it was returned to me via mail.  I noticed that she had highlighted many entries, especially those that identified the importance of familial support.  She had even made notes alongside some of the paragraphs, letting me know she understood and supported me.  I guess I'm fortunate in that.  She did tell me a few days after I came out to her that she knew I was different and wasn't too surprised.  I wish she had talked to me about my being "different" when I was younger.  Who knew.

Yeah this is what I'm gonna do for my mother.  I think she already knows, (I have kind of told her but she didn't react that well so I took it back and pretended I was joking).  Ever since then she has seemed almost determined to affirm to herself that I am not trans.

Well anyway I have a couple of articles that I feel kind of explain how I feel and I am also going to print off some information for significant others from on a FTM site I found and give that to her too.  I hope that will answer some of her questions.  But I think she will have a hard time accepting it.

However that is her problem not mine.  Although I will do all I can to ensure she is properly informed.

http://www.amazon.com/Transgender-Child-Handbook-Families-Professionals/dp/1573443182

I've told everyone in my family, but did not have to tell my mom or dad as they both passed away long before my hrt.
I often think about it, though, and I know with conviction that they would be supportive, and loving.  My mother was a very strong woman, from a very diverse family, and she, above so many others would understand, and want me to be the best woman I could be.  I think she probably always had more than an inkling.


Bev

There are things in the Wiki also. Have you checked out TSroadmap.  It is a source aslo.

Janet

Hi Miss Bev, your story sounds similar to mine. I am not certain how my dad would of taken it, I beleive though that even though he may have disapproved I do not believe he would have disowned me either. As for my mom, I grew up mostly with her, so there was a bond there that surpassed mother and (daughter) I believe that she knew. Through the years she had caught me playing dress up on many different occasions, she would just quietly go back down the stairs and say nothing. But even though she suspected, the phenomena of transsexuality was unknown back then, where would a mother go to consult someone who knew about the disorder of TSism.

When I transitioned to full time to the town folks and on my job, the last three foster children i had in my care were taken by their aunt and my three children had already gone off to live their own lives. That left only my sister who promptly disowned me after learning about my transition. Finally I was on my own and went solo all the way to the operating table. Today I am a woman living a woman's life as it should always have been since the begining. My body finally feels like it's mine.

Cindy   

How sad, Cindy.  No one should be left alone, and face this.  My heart goes out to you, but then I think of WW, and know things are wonderful, in the most important ways.


Bev

Hi Bev,
I think what you are doing is a good idea. Yes try Wikipaedia, (I think that was from Janet). My Mum couldn't cope. Dad did. But I was found out rather than explained, and that was 30-40 yrs ago.
I've come out now to all of my friends, not a lot of people! all the females accept, but some are mystified. The males tolerate, but I think they feel I'm emasculating them.

Cindy James

I guess while my mother was reading the book I sent her, she decided to tell my stepfather and my three sisters.  My stepfather wasn't very supportive, though he didn't say as much.  I believe my mother was trying to get him to understand.  Surprisingly, my sisters were all happy for me.  I didn't expect that.  My two married sisters went as far as to tell their young children that they were getting a new aunt.  Well, I guess they're still waiting for that.  I've yet to come out to any others I know.