Thank you all for the support and rooting for me to get my T... Thursday was the day, I got my first injection and it's hard to believe that it finally happened! But it was a hugely emotional day for other reasons...

Thursday was a really hectic day for me, my parents are very controlling and have been stalking me at my house and at Amy's work for the past week. We asked them not to come around anymore and they showed up on Thursday night and called the police and filed a missing persons report... even though they knew where I was and that I was perfectly ok. So Amy called the police just as she saw that they were on our property once more and having the nerve to file a missing persons report (we have video survellience of our property). A long story short, the police officer came and supervised a conversation between myself and my parents, they were very cruel and my mom said "I can tell you're on T, your face looks terrible" (I had a staph infection last week and it was on my face and it's completely healed now but still a little red... it was really embarrassing). So I gave her the finger... I don't know what posessed me to do that, I've always been very respectful of my parents but I think I've just finally been pushed way too far. They told me they were going to disown me anyways and said that they may aswell do it now. I told them I didn't want to see them anymore... atleast for 6 months and then I will evaluate it. I do not feel safe at home and they have been here while Amy and I are at work and our daughter (who's out of school for the summer) is at home and intimadating her. This is completely unacceptable and I need my family to know that they are safe and that I will not let anything (or anyone) harm them in anyway. I'm not happy that it had to come down to the relationship between my parents and I ending over something like this, but they ultimately made the call and wrote me off, I have to learn to be able to let that go and realize that is their decision and there is nothing I can do to change that or them.

I believe mostly in fate and that whatever is meant to be will happen in it's own time. I believe that I wasn't meant to get my T on either of the days that I was scheduled to get it because I ended up getting it on the perfect day. I was so stressed out about how to tell my parents I was starting injections and that I had changed my name etc. But it all just came out and I think ultimately in a healthy way because they are very hurtful and damaging to me and everything I stand for. I believe having that shot prepared me for that incident with the cop and my parents... I felt invincible and that nothing could bring me down.

All of that aside, it feels GREAT to finally have accomplished something that I've worked so hard to get. As well, with the quitting smoking, I have started getting up at 7 am and running for 45 minutes with our dog. It came out of nowhere and it's really refreshing to be able to run for 45 minutes without getting winded or even being able to run for more than 10 minutes is a miracle! Slowly but surely my life is starting to assemble itself... or am I doing that?

        
              Tino

Hi Tino,

CONGRATULATIONS !!! 

hmm I would use some white but I can't because of white background, anyway I'm very happy for you and yes please post about changes, I'm very curios about them.
I'm very sorry to hear about your parents but tinkerbell said very well.

take care,


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Michelle

Quote from: wolfie on July 08, 2006, 03:40:03 AM
Thank you all for the support and rooting for me to get my T... Thursday was the day, I got my first injection and it's hard to believe that it finally happened! But it was a hugely emotional day for other reasons...

Thursday was a really hectic day for me, my parents are very controlling and have been stalking me at my house and at Amy's work for the past week. We asked them not to come around anymore and they showed up on Thursday night and called the police and filed a missing persons report... even though they knew where I was and that I was perfectly ok. So Amy called the police just as she saw that they were on our property once more and having the nerve to file a missing persons report (we have video survellience of our property). A long story short, the police officer came and supervised a conversation between myself and my parents, they were very cruel and my mom said "I can tell you're on T, your face looks terrible" (I had a staph infection last week and it was on my face and it's completely healed now but still a little red... it was really embarrassing). So I gave her the finger... I don't know what posessed me to do that, I've always been very respectful of my parents but I think I've just finally been pushed way too far. They told me they were going to disown me anyways and said that they may aswell do it now. I told them I didn't want to see them anymore... atleast for 6 months and then I will evaluate it. I do not feel safe at home and they have been here while Amy and I are at work and our daughter (who's out of school for the summer) is at home and intimadating her. This is completely unacceptable and I need my family to know that they are safe and that I will not let anything (or anyone) harm them in anyway. I'm not happy that it had to come down to the relationship between my parents and I ending over something like this, but they ultimately made the call and wrote me off, I have to learn to be able to let that go and realize that is their decision and there is nothing I can do to change that or them.

I believe mostly in fate and that whatever is meant to be will happen in it's own time. I believe that I wasn't meant to get my T on either of the days that I was scheduled to get it because I ended up getting it on the perfect day. I was so stressed out about how to tell my parents I was starting injections and that I had changed my name etc. But it all just came out and I think ultimately in a healthy way because they are very hurtful and damaging to me and everything I stand for. I believe having that shot prepared me for that incident with the cop and my parents... I felt invincible and that nothing could bring me down.

All of that aside, it feels GREAT to finally have accomplished something that I've worked so hard to get. As well, with the quitting smoking, I have started getting up at 7 am and running for 45 minutes with our dog. It came out of nowhere and it's really refreshing to be able to run for 45 minutes without getting winded or even being able to run for more than 10 minutes is a miracle! Slowly but surely my life is starting to assemble itself... or am I doing that?
        
              Tino

Hello Tino.

I'm so happy that your new life is beginning to unfold for you as you have planed and intended it to.  Finally being in control is freeing enough but to be able to start your journey I know is positively exhilarating.  While you will undoubtedly will face other bumps along the way, maintaining a healthy life style, looking after yourself and Amy, will smooth out those bumps and make overcoming them that much easier.  It would seem that you and Amy have a strong bond, don't forget that.

While the relationship between you and your parents may seem to be over at this point in time, and you may even want to put a restraining order in place, the one thing that you or they can't change is the fact that they are your parents.  I would have to hope that generally speaking parents do the stupidest things, but they often do it out of love or misguided notions of love, and out of the fear of loosing a loved one.  As you have done, giving them time and space to get over "your" life is probably the best thing to do.  Maybe once they see and come to realize that you are perfectly safe and happy, then maybe they will "come around" and understand why you had to do what you have done.

Congratulations Tino - it now begins...

-={Steph}=-

Tino,

   You just started the injection?? Wow that some interesting day you are having... I remember when i got my injection.. not as emotional.. but then again my parent didnt know anything and only think i gotten big...
It great to have all the enegry. However, you got to break it down.. If you over work yourself you may end up hurting yourself yeah.
When i was in highschool i run a lot almost 6mile everyday. I wasn't special but always on one of the top individual that can out do people at my own speed. I finally broke myself when I was in military.. Now well, i can't run fast as i used to and couldn't make it to more than a mile without hurting myself bad.. So always take care of yourself.. Slowly build your body.. even with exercise.. Well should go for what work for you. Wish you best of luck..

Congratulations Tino!!!!!  Did you celebrate? 

Melissa

Congratulations dude! And what a day to go with it. Wow.

Dennis

Congratulations Tino... wish I had the guts to stand up to my folks like that, so congrats for both the start of T and standing up to them. That takes a lot of guts. Hey... how'd you manage to quit smoking? I'm working on that right now, and have been boxing and playing soccer to try to substitute for the stress-relieving nicotine, but I can't help it when I'm around other people. Oh well... sounds like you have your life together pretty well. Hope things go better with your family.

Rafe

Tino,

    All I can say is finally! All that stuff with your parents is just them acting out on "losing" their child. So they think. I am glad when I did it the first time it was 2000 miles away. I never could have tried to live as a man in my hometown. But like you said, now it is all out in the open. It is eaiser to deal with parents when you are defending yourself. But then you feel like crap afterwards.

                                            Marco

DU-U-U-DE!!

Congratulations are in order!  I'm truly sorry to hear about how your parents are taking this, and I hold out the hope that they may eventually change their position and come to accept you for who you ARE, on YOUR terms, rather than only under their conditions.

Karen

Congratulations Tino!
Sorry to hear about your parents. Hope they come around.

Quote...I felt invincible and that nothing could bring me down.

That's the spirit, man! Now that's what I like to hear. Keep it up.

Nero

Congratulations Tino!!!  You finally got it!  I'm sorry you're going through all the negative crap from your parents.  In my family, everyone has rejected me except for my dad.  My mom passed away 11 years ago, but I know she would have been there for me.  I hope they come around for family's sake.  It's not a good feeling when there's a bunch of contention in the family.  Just stick with the people that are positive for you, the ones that will encourage you (like Amy and Meg)!


Pam

Wow, lots of support, best family I could have is on Susans!  I want to reply to everyone's questions and as a blanket statement to everyone that posted, thank you for your ongoing encouragement! It's really helpful to have on days like I had on Thursday, to know that not the entire world is out to get me!

Melissa:

Yes there we celebrated, but not with tea. We went to "Granville Island" at night after everything went down because it's my favorite place to just sort stuff out in my head. My dog that I've had since I was 8 was put down a couple of weeks ago and I that was the last time that I went to Granville Island. There's a harbour and it's really nice to just sit and look out on the water. The next morning we went to our usual little breakfast spot called "Bons". $2.95 breakfast, best in B.C. swear to god!

Rafe:

I quit smoking cold turkey. I have tried to quit that way before, I've also tried the patch and the gum but nothing worked. I had the drive for it this time because my doctore highly suggested quitting before I started T. I wasn't going to let anything stand between me and beginning hormones. I used to box for a few years, I taught Tae Kwon Do before that for many years and found it to be a great outlet for anger and frustration. I'm thinking about pulling the gloves out and boxing again (now that I can breath properly!).



Now I have to go menally prepare myself for my home team to slaughter France tomorrow at the world cup! Will keep updating.


   Tino

dude its awesome that you finally got it .don't let your family get you down if i where you i would go on vacation to celebrate
take care
           jaded

Nice Tino,
Its a big step in your life you will look back at. Someday it will feel just like a dream that you ever felt any other way then how you will feel and become.