It has been 10 days since I came out on the to my wife [she aready knew and saw my dressing for years]. She has taken it pretty well. We discussed the letter I wrote her and dealt with everything except my desire to start hormone treatments and work on growing "B" size breasts. She has reservations on that issue and that is going to have to wait. Other than that her only "rules" were no going out dressed right now and don't start dressing every day.

She has been more affectionate and we have worked around the house together better....

I've asked to meet together with a counselor and she is making the arrangements this week. She has begun reading ->-bleeped-<-s and Transsexual [1976 forget the author, Feinbloom??] and I picked up My Husband Betty [Helen Boyd] and I'm reading it first.

All in all things are good and I knowing my wife we'll get thru this and I'll likely have my breasts in the next two years [she'll probably get bigger ones herself].

That's really good news Lynn, you must both be relieved.  It always nice to see folks working together through this thing called "us".  It seems that you are both approaching this in a great way, try not to rush things, but I know that it will be hard, at least try not to overwhelm her at this point.  And don't get your hopes up on those B cups

Steph

This is wonderful news, Lynn!

All I can offer is to tell you to be patient with your wife.  This is very hard on her, if she's anything like mine, and she'll need lots of patience and assurance and communication.  Reikirobyn has often written, "Rush slowly!" and I think that's very good advice.

good luck!
helen

That's great Lynn !!

It's a really nice start, wish you all the luck on your journey!!!


* *
Michelle

A book from 1976? <cringes>  You might give her a copy of true selves.  That is a very good book to read if you are transitioning (and it sounds like you are because of your HRT desires).

Melissa

Quote from: Melissa on July 09, 2006, 09:51:37 PM
A book from 1976? <cringes>  You might give her a copy of true selves.  That is a very good book to read if you are transitioning (and it sounds like you are because of your HRT desires).

Melissa

Hi Melissa, like your new avatar, you look so happy...

I know, I know, it is the book I first educated myself on. I've recently purchased "My Husband Betty" and hope she reads that next. At least it is writen by an SO. She just finished a 16 page "Tri-Ess" paper, something like the "commited CD'er" and had a few good questions and seemed to take it well. The HRT is something I'm looking forward to but Rosie must agree to it. As I said before I'm transitioning up to but not including SRS. I think I can allow that last bit of my male self to remain. A stray sex organ does not dictate [no pun intended] gender...

Quote from: Steph on July 09, 2006, 06:40:16 PM
That's really good news Lynn, you must both be relieved.  It always nice to see folks working together through this thing called "us".  It seems that you are both approaching this in a great way, try not to rush things, but I know that it will be hard, at least try not to overwhelm her at this point.  And don't get your hopes up on those B cups

Steph

Thanks Steph, we're taking it slow and letting Rosie's feelings dictate the progress. I even refrained from dressing last weekend so we could have intelligent conversations about what we've read without the clothes distracting her...

As far as my breasts go, It'll happen sooner or later. I know Rosie pretty well and it will happen. Once Rosie adjusts to my new self she'll come to accept that stage. It is funny that several years ago she talked of wanting bigger breasts for herself and left it up to me. Now I've left her with the same choice for myself. Someday we may be looking for a two for one special...

Helen and Michelle, Thanks for your positive thoughts. I'm trying to put Rosie's feeling first and only moving forward as she approves. Being completely honest is very important

Lynn

Sounds like things are going well for you and thats great.
Just remember rush with baby steps. Let her catch up.

Jillieann

Quote from: Jillieann on July 10, 2006, 05:55:24 PM
Sounds like things are going well for you and thats great.
Just remember rush with baby steps. Let her catch up.

Jillieann

Thank Jilliann,

Sometimes the waiting is difficult. I have refrained from dressing during this period and intend to let Rosie dictate the pace. I know that she is several years behind me and it'll take a long time before she see our future as normal.

Speaking of "Normal", I wish that movie was running right now. It is a little off from how I feel but I think Rosie would benefit from seeing it. I must have watched it 4 or 5 times without Rosie, flipping the channel if she came in...

Lynn

 sheila

Quote from: sheila18 on July 12, 2006, 01:56:24 PM
Lynn:

I wish the best for you and your wife. We TG people are very fortunate to attract incredible women. I am sure she is a very fine person.
I do not know what propels you to dress up, and is important to identify it, and here is why i make this comment:
  I told my ex-wife about my dressing up before we got married. My dressing up became a daily event 18 months after we got married but I was hiding it. My next door neighbor knew but not her.  The adrenalin rush of taking this risk got me addicted to the rush and developed the pattern of satisfying this urge by cross dresing. My ex caught me one day and I promised her to go easy on the dressing up. This confused the issue of sexual identity for me( it took decades before I knew the concept), those were dark years. I would promise every day not to dress up and I would do it again. Full of remorse I would pray to God to remove  this curse from my life, and promise not to do it again. next day I would dress up and repeat this cycle. I promised with solemn oath, on a Bible, on my kid's name, on my future' fate ...back the same.
I am not implying that you have a similar problem like the one I had.
What am saying is I wished  I had learned the concept of motive and patterns back then I t would have saved my marriage a lot of unnecessary distrust.
  My suggestion to you is that you read the posts about sexual identity versus sex orientation because there is a lot of useful and practical information there.
Again I don't know your situatiion and please forgive my comments if I misread your reply.
Love, no matter what, sheila

Sheila;

No problem, that is why we are all here. If a little bit of what you say helps it is worth it.

We do have a very stable marriage and I don't see my gender issues affecting that. She is a survior of two bad marriages and knows the 12-step program well. She has always been good about the dressing and has never said anything negative about it. She now knows I want breasts and she is now weighing that. I just don't want to hide things from her.

Thanks

Lynn

lynn:
love your rsponse
sheila

Quote from: sheila18 on July 12, 2006, 03:03:07 PM
lynn:
love your rsponse
sheila

Sheila;

What did I say, what did I say? I was just saying how I feel...

Like your Avatar, looking like our back yard, where is it?

Lynn

lynn:

sheila

Quote from: sheila18 on July 13, 2006, 07:53:57 AM
lynn:
yes that is the back yard of my 30 acrre stante in downtown ...   
  aahhh   is outside the museum of science...    I took this pix one mornibg 8am sept last year.  I love this picture. Not exactly what I saw different, yet I love the result.  Kind of like the story of my life come to think of it
love, sheila

Sheila.

I like the shade, and the view from the shade into the light is wonderful. We have over 9 acres of maple trees with gardens, a golf green and a pond. We never go on vacation becuz we're already there... when I can post images I'll post some photo's of the yard...

Lynn

Lynn:

sheila

Sheila

tried to post a photo of our yard into the message. cannot figure out how that work.  i'll seek help from the forum gods and try again...

Things are going good. Rosie invited me to take our evening walk last nite at sunset knowing I was wearing a bra and B sized breast forms under my shirt. [first time i dress at all in a while, i haven't been dressing at all waiting on her to catch up] She even lead the way and made sure the coast was clear. We returned arm and arm with her arm wrapped around my back over the bra...

Lynn

Quote from: lynn on July 14, 2006, 06:03:14 AM
Sheila

tried to post a photo of our yard into the message. cannot figure out how that work.  i'll seek help from the forum gods and try again...
..
Lynn

Look here - How do I inset an image into a post?

Steph

sheila