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Coming out to my dad?

Started by emoboi, January 27, 2009, 05:01:26 PM

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emoboi

I want to come out to him but its gunna be hard cause i dont live with him and i dont know he is going to react.
but i see him usaully every other weekend
i get depressed because im his daughter to him and i dont like that
so i dont know how to tell him or how to bring it up
so if u all could give me some advice
that would be great  :-* :police:
Spoopy poopie
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Yochanan

Well, does he know anything about transsexualism or will it be a completely foreign concept to him? If you want to know how he'll react, try mentioning it in idle conversation (or putting the TV on a show with transpeople in it or something) and talk to him about it... And just go from there (like if he doesn't seem freaked out, ask him, "How would you feel if I was trans?"). It kind of depends on if you've got a good relationship with him, too.

I planned for a long time how to come out to my mom and didn't even have to, as she figured me out first. My point being, these things don't always go like you plan, so just get him on the subject and talk about it. And good luck, dude.
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Nicky

I'm not convinced that testing the waters is really all that useful. People say a lot of ->-bleeped-<- but when it comes down to their own kids it is a different story.

My only advise is do it in a way that feels best for you.
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Cindy

Hi
Tough as everyone says.
Does he any other sons? Are you the first? He might like the idea.
Good Luck and a hug
Cindy James
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emoboi

no im not the first i have an older brother
and *hugs* to you too
Spoopy poopie
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perfectisolation

You could write a letter to him.
I wrote one to my dad, whos pretty conservative, and he took it really well.
Just be sure, whatever way you tell him to remind him of how you've always been the same person, his child etc.. Try to stay away from any talk about your sexuality tho, that might confuse or offend him.
I found the "transletters" group on livejournal helpful... oh and you could print out www.tsfaq.info to show him too.
Good luck emoboi!
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rosey

hope everything works out
rosey
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Jay

I would suggest writing him a letter too.


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