Do you cross dress just for the thrill or the fun of it?

Do you cross dress to get sexually aroused

Do you cross dress to get in touch with your feminine side?
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Do you find it difficult to go back in drab after a wonderful time out?

Do you dress as the target gender because it feels more normal?

Are you serious about your appearance in the target gender you are presenting?

What is your opinion on dressing properly according to your age for the gender you present?

Anyone care to give any tips and suggestions?

Cindy

Well cross dressing is fun in some ways but that's not the core reason. I do it to be feminine. It's something I want to express, and it's been that way since I was a child. It's hard for me to say CD feels normal. It feels like I'm out of place (in part b/c of my body). I am certainly serious about what I want to present, and I think you do have to dress age appropriate though from what I've seen many TV and TG on the MTF end have their slutty phase (like many girls go through).

Hi Cindy (we both luv the name )

I cross dress because I have to go to work as a male. When I'm at home I dress in female attire because that's what I am. As for age, difficult, yes I Try to dress my age - but- so many styles o short a time to try them
Always worry about mother of the bride clothes when I haven't been the bride!

Love
Cindy J

Quote from: cindybc on February 06, 2009, 01:49:57 PM
Do you cross dress just for the thrill or the fun of it?

A little.

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Do you cross dress to get sexually aroused

I have gotten aroused when dressing as a girl. Not sure if that counts.

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Do you cross dress to get in touch with your feminine side?

Absolutely. Or rather, to express my feminine side, which feels more natural to me.

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Do you find it difficult to go back in drag after a wonderful time out?

No.

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Do you dress as the target gender because it feels more normal?

Yes.

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Are you serious about your appearance in the target gender you are presenting?

Extremely.

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What is your opinion on dressing properly according to your age for the gender you present?

This is EXTREMELY context-dependent. Different people look good in different things during different situations. There is no definite answer for this.

Quote from: cindybc on February 06, 2009, 01:49:57 PM
Anyone care to give any tips and suggestions?

Again, this is very context-dependent, but the best advice I can give in general is to go the extra mile. Take the time to really focus on your appearance and be critical of your looks. This could mean several different attempts to style your hair and finding just the right outfit for the occasion, even if it's just a stroll down the street in the middle of the afternoon. Put the extra work into it now, so you're not constantly thinking about it later.

Quote from: cindybc on February 06, 2009, 01:49:57 PM
Do you cross dress just for the thrill or the fun of it?

I do it because girls clothes are fun to wear (compared to boring man clothes).

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Do you cross dress to get sexually aroused

I dunno.  I don't do it to get a physical arousal but I definitely do feel sexier in the womens clothes.

Quote from: cindybc on February 06, 2009, 01:49:57 PM
Do you cross dress to get in touch with your feminine side?

Yes

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Do you find it difficult to go back in drag after a wonderful time out?

I'm not sure what you mean here

Quote from: cindybc on February 06, 2009, 01:49:57 PM
Do you dress as the target gender because it feels more normal?

I dunno, I'm just beginning.  Man clothes feel more 'normal' because I've been wearing them for 25+ years, but girls clothes feel 'right' in a normal way.

I'm kind of in a weird space about the thing, but its probably not that uncommon.  When I put the man clothes back on, *that's* when I feel like I'm cross dressing now.  Everywhere I go in public in the man-clothes, I have this nagging feeling that I'm being dishonest with everyone I meet.  If I could pass at this stage, I'd probably not put the man-clothes back on again.  I think.

Do you cross dress just for the thrill or the fun of it?  No, except for maybe if I was to go out clubbing, which I don't do anyway

Do you cross dress to get sexually aroused?  NO

Do you cross dress to get in touch with your feminine side? No, it is part of my everyday life now.

Do you find it difficult to go back in drag after a wonderful time out?  I use to.  I hated being in 'boy' mode.

Do you dress as the target gender because it feels more normal?  Of course

Are you serious about your appearance in the target gender you are presenting?  Yes. Very much so.  I take pride in my appearance.

What is your opinion on dressing properly according to your age for the gender you present? It is what helps in blending into the rest of the female population.


Janet

Bingo!!! That is what it's all about Janet hon.

No offence to cross dressers intended this is only my personal observation and not necessarily reflecting anyone else's.

Cross Dresser, I meant the type that just dress occasionally for the sexual thrill, or to play what ever sort of game cross dressers play, to be in touch with the inner self, or just wanna play pretend. They dress for the evening then go home and put their male garb back on and resume their lives as heterosexual males. No intentions of ever transitioning to become women.

Now there are those of us that did start out by cross dressing just for the fun of it in the privacy of our bedroom, then back to being in drab again when associating with  male friends, family and wives. Then the time comes where the cross dressing becomes more serious as the GID progresses to the point where one can no longer hide that fact as to who they truly are within and the unavoidable urge to transition hits you big time.

I dress appropriately for who I am and no other reason. I dress as me 24hrs per day 7 days a week 12 months of the year because that is who I am. I am a woman just as woman as any other out there. I live and socialise with other women. Probably the only time I talk to a man is when Wing Walker and I take the Jeep into the dealer for servicing.

Let us just say I was filled with uncertainty and hesitation, both a good incubator for confusion. I am usually very strong and quite stable in my identity as who I present. After nine years I have no doubt as to who I am but sometimes I fear my limitations as to how to proceed with my feelings and convictions. Maybe sometimes it is good to be tested, because it keeps us on our toes and prevents us from being consumed into a vortex of complacency that leads to disillusionment.

Cindy

OK Cindy..

....make of this what you will, remembering that I live stealth in "boy" mode at the moment.

Do you cross dress just for the thrill or the fun of it?
No, it's more like a basic need I cannot ignore

Do you cross dress to get sexually aroused
I can do, but I also get aroused in a female way while dressed as a guy, or naked

Do you cross dress to get in touch with your feminine side?
Yes, it's a form of expression of how I feel

Do you find it difficult to go back in drag after a wonderful time out?
I hardly ever go in "drag" unless it is a fancy dress party. I present male or female, the only thing that causes a problem is the latter is my stealth situation.

Do you dress as the target gender because it feels more normal?
I'm not really sure what "normal" is for me these days

Are you serious about your appearance in the target gender you are presenting?
110% appearance and attitude

What is your opinion on dressing properly according to your age for the gender you resent?
Wicked....but respectful....I like to dress in style, but possibly challenge my age..
My therapist describes me as a "Power" dresser....take that as you will

...OK, so maybe I'm just confused but I am honest about it....?

I'm not really sure why someone who is clearly so confident in their appearence and life, feels the need to ask these questions ?

Chrissty

Do you cross dress just for the thrill or the fun of it?
No.

Do you cross dress to get sexually aroused
No have been presenting as female from early age, maybe if i began later it would of though

Do you cross dress to get in touch with your feminine side?
Yes and no, enjoy looking as good as i can but doesnt make me feel anymore like a woman beyond a feel good feeling.

Do you find it difficult to go back in drag after a wonderful time out?
Didnt understand fully (is fulltime drag?) but if not then no i do not.

Do you dress as the target gender because it feels more normal?
It is who i am.

Are you serious about your appearance in the target gender you are presenting?
Yes very much

What is your opinion on dressing properly according to your age for the gender you resent?

Yes i agree to dress similar for your age if you appear that age but there are exceptions, im a catwalk, power, ethnic or vampy dresser...do not try to appear as dressed way beyond my years though

Do you cross dress just for the thrill or the fun of it?
When going out to parties/drag events, yes. But that was before transition.

Do you cross dress to get sexually aroused
No.

Do you cross dress to get in touch with your feminine side?
I'm in touch with my feminine side 24/7, whether I'm in men's clothing, women's clothing, or naked in the tub. 

Do you find it difficult to go back in drag after a wonderful time out?
Yes!

Do you dress as the target gender because it feels more normal?
Honestly, I just think the clothes are more fun as a woman. I don't know if that counts. 

Are you serious about your appearance in the target gender you are presenting?
I'm obsessed with my appearance.

What is your opinion on dressing properly according to your age for the gender you resent?
I think it's very important. Dressing outside of your age only draws more attention to you, which is never a good thing. I'm in my late teens though so I'm at that sweet spot where nothing is really too young or too old for me.

Hi Chrissty, I ask these questions because I was curious as to the answers that the questions would generate. There has been so many controversial thoughts and ideas expressed on this topic on different threads. Why not bring it all under one thread? 

From what I have read thus far it is very much as I had suspected, all over the map but all the responses are not necessarily right or wrong, but unique. Everyone has a different way at looking at themselves, where their at, and where they are going.

I think it is helpful for those who still bear uncertainty about their gender identity. Even I sometimes have my bad hair days, not in doubt as to who I am but as to my credibilety and validity in the things I get involved in,  as I mentioned in part in my above post. I believe all have responded to these questions honesty in their own way, It's all for the good.

Question #4 in drag, should be in drab. *Typo*

Cindy

Do you cross dress just for the thrill or the fun of it?
On some level, yes, and on some level, no.  I primarily crossdress so that I can "feel female".  I cannot look in the mirror and perceive myself to be female wearing dumpy men's clothes.

Do you cross dress to get sexually aroused
Up to this point, I primarily wore women's clothing to get "aroused".  HOWEVER, the arousal I've always felt has been more of a feel good/sexy type of arousal, not an "I want to gratify myself sexually" arousal.  I no longer automatically get aroused in women's clothing, and I try to spend as much time in female clothing as I possibly can right now (although I'm very deep stealth).

Do you cross dress to get in touch with your feminine side?
Crossdressing helps me feel more like "myself" which is a my 100% femenine side.

Do you find it difficult to go back in drab after a wonderful time out?
I HATE going back, because I have to switch back to acting like a boy

Do you dress as the target gender because it feels more normal?
Being stylish and sexy feels normal (it's more aesthetically pleasing), and female clothing is definitely both.  I also like the fact that it's tighter/form fitting rather than droopy.

Are you serious about your appearance in the target gender you are presenting?
I try to look just like the other "normal" girls out there.

What is your opinion on dressing properly according to your age for the gender you resent?
Most women my age wear t-shirts and jeans, and it can look good if done right.  I'm a t-shirt/jeans girl.

I'll take "cross dressing" to mean "dressing for the target gender."

Do you cross dress just for the thrill or the fun of it?
Not particularly. I guess I try to have a little fun with however I dress.

Do you cross dress to get sexually aroused
No, but it used to be arousing when I was a teenager. Then again, nearly everything was arousing when I was a teenager. Furthermore, having two sisters that I envied fiercly, and feeling terribly ashamed of it and of wearing their clothes made it all extremely fraught. The reason I did it, though, I can best describe as my starving attempt to gather the crumbs of girlhood that fell from their table.

Do you cross dress to get in touch with your feminine side?
No. But it's nice that the perceived expectation to act in a masculine manner isn't there.

Do you find it difficult to go back in drab after a wonderful time out?
I find all normal daily transitions difficult -- waking up, getting out of the house, coming home, going to bed, etc. But I find it difficult every morning I have to go out in guy mode. It's a burden.

Do you dress as the target gender because it feels more normal?
I guess "more normal" is a bit contradictory. "More" usually means "farther from normal." I'd say it feels less awkward, even though there is awkwardness at the same time as I'm feeling out the social implications.

Are you serious about your appearance in the target gender you are presenting?
Yes, and I always was. Seeing myself in the mirror and not "passing" to my own satisfaction has always been painful.

What is your opinion on dressing properly according to your age for the gender you present?
Dress how you want. Understand that it will affect how people will treat you.

Anyone care to give any tips and suggestions?
For what? Dressing appropriately? I guess I already answered that.

Cross Dress, me? Never! Why in the heck would I do that? I have no desire to look like a man.

Do you cross dress just for the thrill or the fun of it?
No

Do you cross dress to get sexually aroused?
No, but it may arouse others around me, and I'm OK with that.

Do you cross dress to get in touch with your feminine side?
No, I only have a feminine side IMO

Do you find it difficult to go back in drab after a wonderful time out?
No - Sweats and a tee are comfortable.

Do you dress as the target gender because it feels more normal?
It feels comfortable, but so don't sweats and a tee. I guess I haven't noticed
a difference

Are you serious about your appearance in the target gender you are presenting?
I am always serious about my appearance, too much sometimes.

What is your opinion on dressing properly according to your age for the gender you present?
I try damn hard not to grab at the clothes in the young miss' dept. But it is
difficult. I guess its the kid in me. so my opinion is...I can understand it. 

Anyone care to give any tips and suggestions?
I suggest the word 'crossdressing' be added to the
'ugliest word you know' thread if it hasn't been already.

Nicole

Oh I like that. I don't understand the word cross-dressing. When I'm wearing female identified attire I'm wearing my normal sex orientated clothes. Since I am recognised physically as male at work - and I cannot change that until I leave, I have to cross-dress to work. But I think that has lost in the thread.
Do I feel sexually aroused, no, but sometimes I feel  very sexy; like to turn a guy on! I think that's normal female response.

Cindy James

Yes I want it all - Even if I cannot have it

Quote from: Nicole_M on February 17, 2009, 11:22:07 PM

What is your opinion on dressing properly according to your age for the gender you present?
I try damn hard not to grab at the clothes in the young miss' dept. But it is
difficult. I guess its the kid in me. so my opinion is...I can understand it. 

Isn't that the truth?  I love looking, their just so dang cute, but I know I'm way too old for that style.

Quote from: CindyJames on February 18, 2009, 02:50:49 AM
Nicole

Oh I like that. I don't understand the word cross-dressing. When I'm wearing female identified attire I'm wearing my normal sex orientated clothes. Since I am recognised physically as male at work - and I cannot change that until I leave, I have to cross-dress to work. But I think that has lost in the thread.
Do I feel sexually aroused, no, but sometimes I feel  very sexy; like to turn a guy on! I think that's normal female response.

Cindy James

Yes I want it all - Even if I cannot have it

Anyone who is comfortable referring to cross-dressing as something that they do is fine.
I see it as I am dressing masculine (like you, I also have to at times), or I am
dressing feminine, which is my preferred attire and reflects how I feel.

But even if I wear masculine clothes I still feel feminine, the clothes are just clothes
and don't change how I feel...Except when it comes to sexy, You said exactly what I
meant with the second question, I like to feel attractive...I like to be attractive.
I like sexy....

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OK... I like to answer the questions before I read the rest of the posts, now I understand this threads intent....
...guess you know where I am on the gender spectrum. 

Hi Nicole

Yes I still feel completely female in guy's clothes. But it's not want I want to be. It's really strange; I wear female underwear always, I wear "female" jeans. Have too, for the hip size! I often wear female blouses instead of a shirt. Conservative ones, so I don't frighten the squirrels.
But     .............
Maybe I'm weird

Cindy James

I think these types of questions are good they help foster communication imo. 

Having said that I wear what ever I feel like wearing @ the moment. 

Today since it is only 17° it will be jeans sweater boots and a scarf.