I Am a Crossdresser

I am a crossdresser.  I didn't choose to be a crossdresser.  Crossdressing chose me.  I don't hate my body (well...except for the last 25 pounds).  I don't want to change my sex.  I don't dress because it is a sexual thrill.  I don't dress as a prelude to having sex with members of my own gender.  I dress as an outward manifestation of who I am inside.

I am a crossdresser.  I am your neighbor and I might be your friend.  I mow my yard and rake my leaves.  I put my dog in at night so his barking won't disturb you.  I come over with a set of jumper cables when your car won't start.   I talk in funny voices to make your children laugh.  I hold the door open for ladies, men, and children.  I call the 16 year old girl at Burger King "Maam".  I pay my taxes and honor my word.

I am a crossdresser.  I don't judge you for how you look or where you are from.  I live by the Golden Rule and treat you like I hope you will treat me.  I close my eyes when I pray.  I sing songs from the church hymnal, songs by the Beatles, and songs by Johnny Cash with equal fervor (and usually a half note flat).

I am a crossdresser.  I am not restrained by society's ideal of what is masculine and feminine.  Much of the softness of femininity remains with me even when I am solely in men's clothing.  I am more patient with others.  I can be cooperative rather than competitive.  When my child's dog died, I could hold my son in my arms and give him comfort and then later, take a shovel to dig a grave in the hard, dry summer soil of our backyard.  I have tried to combine the best attributes of both man and woman.

I am a crossdresser.  I am your neighbor, your friend, your employer, your client, your teammate and any other person you might know.  If I have told what I am, I have entrusted you with a secret which few know.  There are many who would do me harm simple because of what I am.  I am not ashamed, but still, I must be careful in sharing my secret.

I am a crossdresser and all I want to be is who I am.

Nice message.

And I am sure you do not bite people, but some people seem to fear as if I am going to bite them.

Barbie~~

Well put Jeanette-Alexis.
You said it all so well, but  still some people go mad at us.... sometimes even from inside the TG community.

What it is that disturb them so much about us?
That we have chosen to stay free from the imposed limitations of ascribed gender role?
That we move freely expressing the totality of our identity?
Are they jealous?
Do they feel threatened?

To tell you the truth I don't care anymore! It is their problem, not mine. 


LLL&R

Maebh

Wonderful writing, Jeanette, and well-said!  Thanks for sharing.

Kristi

Well said Jeanette!

I agree 100% this is a very wonderful piece of writing, and I agree with every word of it, for I feel exactly the same way.

Quote from: Maebh on January 22, 2008, 09:22:14 AM
Well put Jeanette-Alexis.
You said it all so well, but  still some people go mad at us.... sometimes even from inside the TG community.

What it is that disturb them so much about us?
That we have chosen to stay free from the imposed limitations of ascribed gender role?
That we move freely expressing the totality of our identity?
Are they jealous?
Do they feel threatened?

To tell you the truth I don't care anymore! It is their problem, not mine. 
LLL&R
Maebh

Very good thoughts there Maebh. I think that people are  disturbed at the fact that we are not held down by what society expects us to be, but we do freely express our totality of our identity, and I also believe that they are jealous because of that that we can one day be male and then one day be female. Now I'm not sure if they feel threatend by it, but I've always noticed a change when I'm my feminine self, people seem to be more cautious.

Gina 

QuoteI am a crossdresser.  ...and any other person you might know.  If I have told what I am, I have entrusted you with a secret which few know.

up until here, it was ok, but this nearly made me cry. makes me think of how easy it would be for a person to be themselves if the world around them wasn't so narrowminded.
i mean, these people really could at least keep their dislike towards crossdressers to themselves. it's quite easy really, think it, but don't show any physical signs- that would be a start!

Hi all

very well written and you have captured the feeling of most if not all  of us.

Well put, Jeanette. I feel the same way too. It's wonderful to be yourself. Welcome to the forum.

Gennee

Just like rainbows and boxes of crayons, CDs come in more than one color, more than one shade, more than one style.  Nor is it one thing throughout our life, how open you are, where you are, what you are doing has a lot to do with how you are accepted.

Quote from: tekla on January 27, 2008, 03:09:10 PM
Just like rainbows and boxes of crayons, CDs come in more than one color, more than one shade, more than one style.  Nor is it one thing throughout our life, how open you are, where you are, what you are doing has a lot to do with how you are accepted.

Of courdse but I would add: mostly how you accept yourself first of all.

LLL&R

Maebh

Jeanette-Alexis

Well put I am glad you put that in here ... i needed to here that ,I am finding out more and more about myself through others .. Thank you

Roger
AKA
Yodude

Quote from: barbie on January 22, 2008, 08:38:21 AM
Nice message.

And I am sure you do not bite people, but some people seem to fear as if I am going to bite them.

Barbie~~

So true

great writing

Jeanette-alexis,That was perfectly said.
Dominique

Love it.  Thank you.

Your welcome

 ;)It's sometimes more difficult to keep it a secret I beleive. Probably it depends on who should know. Some my family members would not understand me being a CD but others are either understanding or don't care. Life is so much easier and comforted when a person can be upfront with everyone but I guess sometimes that's not an option. I pretty sure most employers would show some concern. Maybe not. But I would fear discrimination. You seem to be a very genuine person and I would love to have you for a neighbor. Hugs,Genevieve

Yes it would be awsome to be neighbors if you didn't mind a gay cd next door.
Dominique

You are "Muy bonita"! Keep up the good work. You mentioned it is not for sexual pleasure. Personally I just enjoy to dress. When I still lived with my wife the only time she would experience orgasm is when I was crossdressing. Maybe I should have found her a girl friend. At that time in my life I probably had one to spare. No wonder we are seperated. Genevieve