Quote from: pong on February 17, 2009, 06:07:36 AM
Thanks guys!  I've been searching for a long time for a forum like this, and thank God I found it.

this is the best! 

-waves at Pong- I'm bisexual.

Quote from: freespeechz on February 17, 2009, 01:01:56 PM
-waves at Pong- I'm bisexual.

Thanks Asher. I don't want to sound stupid but to be honest with you, I couldn't believe it when I heard about a guy that had sex change surgery and then realized that she was a lesbian and wants to be with women. I thought it was a joke. I really thought that one wants to physically transform to the target gender to be with the opposite sex. And this forum is helping me understand.   

Quote from: pong on February 17, 2009, 04:01:36 PM
Thanks Asher. I don't want to sound stupid but to be honest with you, I couldn't believe it when I heard about a guy that had sex change surgery and then realized that she was a lesbian and wants to be with women. I thought it was a joke. I really thought that one wants to physically transform to the target gender to be with the opposite sex. And this forum is helping me understand.

are you coming from a lesbian background then?

Quote from: Nero on February 17, 2009, 04:05:58 PM
are you coming from a lesbian background then?

Hi Nero,

Again pardon my ignorance, what do you mean by lesbian background? I have been tagged a lesbian since I can remember and I always hated it because I always feel that I am straight male inside a woman's body. Is that what you meant?

As I mentioned before, I don't have enough exposure since most of my friends are straight male and their straight wives/girlfriends. I met a couple of lesbians but they never really talk about stuff like these. 

Thank you for your patience.

Hi Pong. I just wondered where you're coming from. A lot of straight transpeople come from a gay (mtf) or lesbian (ftm) background. meaning they were labeled homosexual because of their biological sex.

When I was younger I heard about a transwoman who was with another woman and I thought it was ridiculous to have SRS only to go ahead and be gay. I figured if they wanted to be with women anyway then why would they also want to be a woman.

Now I realise of course that they are two totally separate entities; especially seeing as I'm a gay transguy myself

Quote from: Nero on February 17, 2009, 04:21:07 PM
Hi Pong. I just wondered where you're coming from. A lot of straight transpeople come from a gay (mtf) or lesbian (ftm) background. meaning they were labeled homosexual because of their biological sex.

Gotcha!

Anyway, I have been reserching surgeons for my transformation. I am thinking of having my breast remove this year (around November) and how I'm going to break the news about my transformation at work. I think this would be the hardest part since I am already in my 40's. My family & friends are OK since I've been dressing up & acting like a man eversince.

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Quote from: Jeatyn on February 17, 2009, 04:36:01 PM
When I was younger I heard about a transwoman who was with another woman and I thought it was ridiculous to have SRS only to go ahead and be gay. I figured if they wanted to be with women anyway then why would they also want to be a woman.

Now I realise of course that they are two totally separate entities; especially seeing as I'm a gay transguy myself

That's exactly what my thought process was. Anyway, glad I found this forum to enlighten me.

Hey, this thread is getting a bit long so I'm not sure if you're still looking for advice, but I don't have much anyways; I'd just like to say that as an 18-year-old gay transguy myself, I can identify. I'm in the middle of a crush I also see as hopeless, and since I haven't made any move myself, I don't think I'm really qualified to give you advice, as it would be coming straight from my backside but I do wish you best of luck, if it never works out with him then at least with somebody else. I do have some advice; have confidence in yourself and do what feels most right.  Then, at least, no matter what the outcome, you might wish it had been different but you hopefully won't regret anything.

*blink* reading that post was almost like reading about my own situation, except I'm not a virgin and the guy I like is deeply gay [and of course he couldn't be attracted to me because I look so much like a girl]. I've basically decided to do nothing, but there's a quote I heard a long time ago... It doesn't matter which path in life you take - whichever one you walk, you will regret not having taken the other one. So perhaps the best thing to do is just tell them - at least you'll know if there's a chance for you, or if you should try to move on.