Like many I went through a couple of different names before I settled in on the one that I have now.
I also agonized over it for a while. Very few people have the chance to pick a new name for themselves and in many ways it will forever brand that person. So for me the name had to be *right*.
My other name would only feminize if you spelled it with an *ie* instead of a *y*. So I rejected that out of hand. I wanted a name that sounded female as well as spelled fem.
After a lot of searching baby naming sights, I searched my past feelings. Some of you may remember an actress called Sandy Duncan. She always struck me as a wonderfully effervescent, funny and upbeat person. If I wanted to be like someone, that is the person I wanted to be like. I know the nickname, Sandy, can be male, but mostly it is recognized as female. And the formal, Sandra, is completely feminine.
Also at the time I didn't run into that many Sandys, since then of course, it seems like just about every other girl I run into is named Sandy.

Though the etymology of the name is Cassandra, and is linked to people who are woeful and cynical, I choose not to be that way. You may have heard the term "Don't be such a Cassandra!" Well, I'm not!
My middle name is my badge of courage. When I was graduating from grade school, the principal mispronounced my middle name and it came out as Louise. My *friends* taunted me with that name mercilessly until I cried. I now carry that name proudly!
Choosing your name can be almost as daunting as the act of coming out. But if you examine your feelings, I think you'll find the name that is truly yours.
-Sandy