No, I don't feel special. No I don't feel blessed.
I remember when I was growing up, when we were taught to say our prayers before going to sleep, I would silently pray to yhwh to turn me into "a real boy" while I slept. Needless to say, the prayers weren't answered.

I agree with what a few people have said about being richer for the experience. Blessed is not exactly the word I would use... 

Certainly we can all agree that we wouldn't wish transsexualism on anyone. It sucks.

BUT,

I do think being transsexual has had some positive effects. It's put me on a path on which I've gained knowledge and experiences I otherwise would not have had, and I think I'm better off because of that. My computer's dictionary defines special as - "better, greater, or otherwise different from what is usual".  I think that fits.

So, special? yes. Blessed, no.

I can only see 'different from usual' fitting... whats better or greater about suffering transseuxalism? What are these benefits? If im missing the big free buffet for trannies then let me know!

Quote from: Rachael on February 23, 2009, 11:04:34 AM
What are these benefits? If im missing the big free buffet for trannies then let me know!

LOL. Well, I wouldn't be the one to ask... I didn't even know we had our own agenda until a few days ago.

But I mean that we have more insight into the human experience than your average cisgender person. Our struggles give us strength.

Personally, i dont have any greater insight or knowlage than my peers... Yes, biggotry is bad....  yes, people can be arseholes... but at the end of the day, My experience is fairly normal for someone suffering from a birth defect that inhibits thier life.... the same way as  MANY more people than just trans experience.

Being like this has given me no magical powers, i can not read people better... i can not tell how someone feels by looking at the size of thier hair.... its all hugely relative.... Being transsexual COULD give you an insight... but i dont belive all people are enlightend by this... we seem to think all transpeople are educated, inteligent beyond reason, and totally nice people...

Sorry, theres as many idiots, biggots and morons within the ts community as anywhere...

Plus not all of us LET trans take over our life to a point where it influences us... some of us get on with things and live... Feel special for who we are, what we accomplish, and what we do in our lives with our minds and our bodies....  I swear we make far to big a deal out of gender.... 99% of the world doesnt think about it nearly as much.

Quote from: Rachael on February 23, 2009, 11:04:34 AM
I can only see 'different from usual' fitting... whats better or greater about suffering transseuxalism? What are these benefits? If im missing the big free buffet for trannies then let me know!

A buffet??!! Nobody told me about the free buffet!

See you over by the bagels and lox 

Z

why can't i be both? because i'm female (in body & mind).  transgenders pride themselves on being "both".  nothing wrong with that (if you can pull it off in the kind of society we live in) that is.

My experience in passing from appearing male to appearing female, was a spiritual awakening for me.  I realized that if I can do such a thing as it applies to gender, then all things are possible.  Also, in facing the fears around what would happen to me after transition, I lost my attachment to those things, and I found that I had then lost my FEAR of losing them.
This was a great blessing, over and above the fact that now I was honest with the world as appearing female.
So being trans is very much a part of my grand drama on the stage of life, and I could not be anything else.  And yes, I feel blessed, and I have had a special experience.

It's not about being a "proud transsexual" for me.  I'm just not ashamed of it nor will I deny it as being a factor in my life.  It has made me who I am today for better or worse, and the FACT is, it's the same for the rest of you.  Deny all you want, if it makes you feel better about yourself.  I'm not here to judge you.   Some do enough of that already.

I am frankly sick of that attitude.... forcing your views on those who do not share them.

Then I will leave you to your thoughts.   

Quote from: Ashley315 on February 23, 2009, 01:10:55 PM
the FACT is, it's the same for the rest of you.  Deny all you want, if it makes you feel better about yourself.

Excuse me. With all due respect, I find your comments very rude & condescending. I'd appreciate it if you wouldn't speak for me.  I didn't transition to be a ->-bleeped-<- so please don't speak for me.  Always speak for yourself.

Quote from: Valentina on February 23, 2009, 02:12:17 PM
Excuse me. With all due respect, I find your comments very rude & condescending. I'd appreciate it if you wouldn't speak for me.  I didn't transition to be a ->-bleeped-<- so please don't speak for me.  Always speak for yourself.

I can be that way from time to time.  The fact is that most of us are genetically one sex, so if you change that sex, you are in fact a TRANSSEXUAL.  That doesn't make you less of a woman.  It just makes you a woman plus that.  Jesus people, this isn't quantum physics here.  It's basic Biology 101.  Do we really need to break out the textbooks and see what real scientist say about this and not some bozo pseudo scientist.

Like I said, speak for yourself.  If you want to see yourself as a transsexual, go for it.  Don't speak for me, understood?

I see us all that way.  Understood?

Quote from: Ashley315 on February 23, 2009, 02:53:22 PM
I see us all that way.  Understood?

With the utmost respect please read your sentence, it starts "I see..."

Whatever our gender, whether it be genetic or otherwise we should be entitled to live it and express it how we wish and let others do the same. There is no right or wrong way to be a man, a woman or anything one wants to be.

Some of us wish to be women or men and forget the past which is fine, others are happy not to forget the past, some are on the road and others have yet to set out. Respect is due to all of them.

I've only been on this site a few days, it's the first "Transgender" site I've ever been on and frankly I'm shocked at some of the opinions coming from both sides. OK Mods if you want to warn or ban me that's your prerogative but tolerance is essential always in all societies.

There is NO correct way to be a human being, just let's try and be decent and help others and learn to love ourselves and the World will be a better place one day, God willing.

Anyway love and peace to you all whatever you believe

you saying you see us all as transsexuals basically is as bad as saying you see us all as men... or 'not quite women' Its biggotry....

Unlike some, and i know a lot will agree with this.... I transitioned because im a woman. Im not about to settle for being a second class woman... thats how i see the label 'transwoman' or transsexual woman' it means im not quite what i am. With all respect, and your quaisi biology aside. It doesnt matter. Belive what you want, but some of us transitioned out of a need to... not a choice, we havent decided to see ourselves as women. We are. so respectfully put a sock in it.

Quote from: Rachael on February 23, 2009, 04:04:39 PM
you saying you see us all as transsexuals basically is as bad as saying you see us all as men... or 'not quite women' Its biggotry....

Unlike some, and i know a lot will agree with this.... I transitioned because im a woman. Im not about to settle for being a second class woman... thats how i see the label 'transwoman' or transsexual woman' it means im not quite what i am. With all respect, and your quaisi biology aside. It doesnt matter. Belive what you want, but some of us transitioned out of a need to... not a choice, we havent decided to see ourselves as women. We are. so respectfully put a sock in it.

That is not what I'm saying!

There's too much anger on this site.

Imaz

Please don't construe the opinionated rantings of some color your thoughts about the rest of the people on this site.

We are quite tolerant of others opinions and all are truly accepted.

I was about to have this thread locked because of it had strayed too much off the point and seems to become a flame ware.  That is SPECIFICALLY forbidden by the TOS.

Please take some time to look at other areas here and I think you may find that it is more accepting.

Thanks.

-Sandy

Please, girls.  Arguments about this really don't go anywhere productive very often.  People tend to have their opinions, and they don't like changing them.  They cherish them.  I know we'd like to believe that progress is made by successfully convincing people to be more enlightened about their views, but the fact is that most 'change in opinion' is due to new people being born who end up more open-minded than their predecessors.

So let's put the argument and opinions aside for now and just concentrate on making sure the kids we decide to (or not to) have end up smarter than us.