Hey girls/guys, You can call me Lily, I'm 18, M2F, Ive been feeling this way ever since I was 10 probably (dont remember much before that).. I still live at home, finishing 12th grade then going to college (not sure if Im staying home or going away for college), anyway.

I want to start hormones soon because I read the earlier the better. My hairs already shoulder length, and I actually don't have much body hair at all, and not very much facial hair, really just hair on my legs, so I'm hoping hormones will stop any further development of that stuff. Things like hormones, seeing a therapist, and shaving my legs, and ESPECIALLY things like wearing women's clothes and makeup will be noticed by my parents. My parents are super religious (baptist Christians), they are the type who are against gays/lesbians, the type who think anything above PG is wrong, the type who go to church every sunday... and try to drag me along with them (altho they don't FORCE me to go they do try to talk about the bible and how I need god every chance they get).

I only see two choices, one is take a risk and try to tell them, the second is inform them of my decision and move out. Does anyone have any advice for coming out to religious parents? Oh and if you didn't see my other post, Ive got my first therapist appointment on friday so im nervous about that to.

Hi Lily! Welcome to Susan's !

Advice I have on your parents....I have not per se....religious parents myself, but a mother with a very closed mind towards GLBT individuals and such. I'd say from the sounds of your parents....there could be a good chance it might not go over to well at this time to tell them while living under their roof. It's a good thing they don't force you go to church. I'd say for the time, it might be a good idea to save some money, and work on getting out.

Only advice from personal experiences on this....and I don't really know them, so it would probably be a judgment call based of what you know about them .

Hi Lily,   

Welcome to our little family. Over 1900 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion. Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers.  Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now.  And it is always nice to have another sister.   

You have my sympathies on the religious parents.  You are 18 and if you live in the USA, you are legal to do what you want to do.  However you are still under their roof and in high school.  So I would wait and go away to college, then you will be free to an extent.  If you are depended on them for support in college then you may need to cut and run, as it is said.

You know them the best, so telling them is going to have to be your call.  Maybe one of the younger ones will have a better thought.

JMHO
Janet

Hello Lily and welcome to Susan's! 

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tink

Hi Lilliana,

Welcome, may you make many friends and find what you are looking for here.

There are some great people here, you will not regret joining

Thanks everyone I can see there's a lot of friendly people and pages upon pages of useful information. 

Hi Lily,
Beautiful name!

I hope things go well for you. It might feel like there is a rush to sort things out but really sometimes it is beneficial to wait untill you are in a stronger position - like wait until you are independent or at least have an 'escape' plan, especially with your strongly opinionated parents. But then you could be surprised by their reactions, you never really know..