I have been kicking around in Gender space for almost 50 years. Of that time only the last 30 I knew what was going on. For those of you that are young you have the best oppurtunity to be who you really are without many incumberences. By the time I figured out what was really different about me I had a wife, children and a career. I felt I could not destroy all those I loved to be who I really was. I am one who will never have that which I truely want. I will have to continue to live as male. I have been down the HRT road. I have had Minor surgery the begin the SRS process. My S.O. has asked that I wait till after she is gone to have the balance of the surgery as it is more than she feels she could handle. So I say to all you 20 & 30 somethings stay single till after you have completed your transition then your S.O.'s will deal with you as you are not as you wish to be. Hugs to you all! Bobbi   

Hi Bobbi,

Welcome to Susan's Place.



Rebis

Hi Bobbi

welcome to susans, yes it a hard road and i do feel for you. i only wish something gives so you can become the person you wish to be.

I can relate to staying single though, it does have its many upsides in transition..post op though well that is different matter 

Hi Bobbi,   

Welcome to our little family. Over 1900 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion. Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers.  Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now.  And it is always nice to have another sister.   

Janet

Thank you it's nice to find a place not filled with Trolls and people asking if you want to see my cam. I am anything but a prude but I believe that intimate moments are private and between those involved. Now that being said. I probably will throw the whole gender world a curve when I say that I have come to the conclusion that I am (at least currently the only part that could change is the male part ;-)) a Male Lesbian. I'm sure if my S.O. read that she would be in apoplexy. I say currently because my S.O. does not want me to have SRS. Since my love for her is stronger than my desire to become fully that which I already am I will not push the issue. It is however very difficult for me on a daily bases. For those who want to transition and then find a guy to settle down with I'm sure this concept is hard to understand. I have been told why not just stay a guy and love women. But that is not what I am inside. It would be no different than saying to one of you if you want to be with a guy just stay a man and be gay it is not what you are. In a perfect world I would have SRS still present as male for 2 reasons I can't pass (I'm very tall) and my S.O. would find it easier to deal with a male persona. We would continue to live as we have on the outside and I could have the body I believe that I always should have had. Anyway that is todays ramblings hope you all have a wonderful day.
Hugs,
Bobbi     

Hi Bobbi & Welcome To Susans!

Welcome to the site, Bobbi. That's sage advice that you've shared.

Gennee

Jay,
Congrats to you on your top surgery. Although we are at different points on the continuum I can feel your joy and I am truly happy for you. I well remember both the joy and the pain from my Orchiotomy. The especially great part is that the pain fades the joy lasts for ever.
Hugs,
Bobbi

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Genee,
Thanks, but it is wisdom that has come from the school of hard learning.
Hugs,
Bobbi

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tink

Hi Bobbi

We all take steps, most of us fall over and start again.
Welcome. I understand you concern and love for your S.O.

I also think there may be quite a few XY lesbians

LoL
Cindy James

Hi Cindy,
Thanks for your posts. Years ago the was a song "torn between two lovers" and while that sound was about a totally different subject the words to the song ring so true in my situtation. I love my S.O. more than life it self and at the same time there is this burning desire inside of me to be who I am. Every day is both a joy and a struggle. Thank you for your kind words.
Hugs,
Bobbi