It's been about three weeks since I sent a letter to my parents about needing to be a boy. I wrote that I felt I had to hide a part of me every time that I went back home and that I was tired of the lies I was living. It was like a three page letter and I poured my heart out. But I think that doing it over a piece of paper while I was 400 miles away wasn't a great way to break the news to them. I've heard from my dad but not at all from my mom. I'm so used to my mom yelling and this quiet response has me completely confused and upset. I've called them a few times but they just have my little brother answer the phone (he's 6 and has no idea why he doesn't get to talk to me or see me as often any more). I know that I just need to give them time, but how am I supposed to feel in the mean time. It wouldn't be like this if I would have just kept quiet about myself. So, what now?

They are just taking time to process the letter. I did the same thing and they sometimes take a while to collect their thoughts and what they will say to you. The one big piece of advice I can give to you is be prepared for any and every kind of question. Have some research or something ready for them.

Give them time, don't try to push it.

You will know when you get that call that says we need to talk.  Go with an open mind and heart.  Approach every question in a tactful manner.  And don't argue and don't give in to demands.

They need to know just how serious you are.

Janet