I've met girls who are about a size zero and they still want to lose weight. I've told them bluntly that they're too thin to be attractive already, that their bones creeped me out. They still kept talking about how they wanted to be thinner.

I don't think it's about being attractive, but I really don't know what it's about.

Look at Nicole Richie

http://www.theblogyoulovetohate.com/nicole-richie-malibu-august-12-2006/

I don't see how any man or woman can be attracted to that. It's disgusting!

And what will happen when you hit size zero?
Will you really be happy?

Your size is probably not the real issue, and once you hit size zero there is a very real chance you will begin to think that is no longer good enough either.

i know it wont make me happy but i think it will make me more content

It won't, though.  That's the thing.. once you reach 0 you'll start thinking "If I reach 00, then I'll be content."  And on and on.  It's like buying things, you think once you have something it'll make you content but there's always something more to move on to.  You have to make yourself content, nothing on the outside can do that for you, and if you base your contentedness on something in the future, that future will never actually arrive.  What you think you need to be content will always change so it's just out of your grasp.  Be content now.   That's the key.

The thing you gotta get is that you're gonna be you no matter what happens. You'll have the same problems and probably more when you reach your desired size.

What is being super skinny gonna bring you? You'll have a next to nothing diet, feel sick all the time and constantly be worried about gaining any weight. Our bodies naturally change as we get older. Even if you get this weight you won't be able to keep it, or end up killing yourself trying.

I agree with Tam Tam, be content now.

exactly how do i make myself content with my weight/size
if it were that easy to be content i would have done something about it but its not easy to rewire how you think

There are therapies available to help people.. otherwise no one with eating disorders would ever get better.  Does your therapist know that you think/feel like this?

yes

Has your therapist suggested anything you can do?

If not, or if it isn't working, seeing a different therapist might be better.  Therapy is supposed to help; if it doesn't help, then it's a waste of time and money.

not really havent really focused on that in depth

I used to be a size 0. I feel like it's too small, especially for a guy.

I don't concern myself with the size, but more of the weight, ideally I think 120-130 pounds is awesome (based on 5'7)

The problem is, it's all numbers.
Numbers do not mean you're attractive or not.
Numbers don't tell you whether or not you're healthy.
Numbers mean little at all in this context.

What matters is your health and well being, which requires you to eat right (not too much but sure as heck not too little either) and get a reasonable amount of exercise.

If you starve yourself and wear yourself out trying to fit a number you are not making yourself attractive, you're turning yourself into something highly unattractive.
Chasing numbers is not healthy either. It's an unhealthy obsession.
If you ascribe meaning to numbers that don't mean anything on their own, you'll look about as "rational" as people who talk to walls.

Quote from: Paulina on April 15, 2009, 05:20:54 PM
I don't concern myself with the size, but more of the weight, ideally I think 120-130 pounds is awesome (based on 5'7)

I'm 5'2 and weigh 125, right in between the weights you're thinking. 120-130 isn't the greatest for a 5'7 woman. My best friend is 2" taller than me and weighs about 5lbs more, but she's skinner than me, as far as appearances go. I'd hate to see what that weight looked on someone that 'tall'. 140-145 might be a bit more of a 'healthier' weight.