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Have you ever had doubts right before having surgery or HRT?

Started by Nero, March 23, 2009, 03:09:58 PM

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Nero

Not doubts as to your gender id, but doubts as to whether you'll regret it or not.
I mean, there's no going back.
Nero was the Forum Admin here at Susan's Place for several years up to the time of his death.
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Randy

Sure. I think we all do. Now matter how long you've wanted/needed it, there's always those second thoughts, at least for me, because I knew there'd be no going back.

myles

Definitely doubts, but the answer is always the same, it's a huge thing.
ALways good to question things.
Myles
"A life lived in fear is a life half lived"
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sneakersjay

About 5 seconds worth.

Seriously, I asked myself if I could continue living as a woman for the rest of my life?  The answer was a resounding NO, I'd rather be dead. So T and top surgery seemed far less drastic than death.

My mother asked me, what if you're making a mistake?  I said I'd already lived half my life as the wrong gender; if being male wasn't right either, then really, what was the difference?

I'm 1 year into my transition; 8 months on T, with hysto and top surgery, and I have zero regrets.  Well, I take that back.  Looking through photos recently with my kids, if there were a way to have been 100% myself as the female I was born, that would have been nice; but since I wasn't born female despite my body, the incongruency grated for far too long.

Jay


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Janet_Girl

In for a penny in for a pound.

Not once, and I won't when it comes time for SRS.

Janet

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sd

Quote from: Nero on March 23, 2009, 03:09:58 PM
Not doubts as to your gender id, but doubts as to whether you'll regret it or not.
I mean, there's no going back.

Even if you did regret it a little, wouldn't being happy 99% of the time be better than being unhappy 99% of the time?

Will I have regrets, heck no. I have wanted those bits gone for as long as I can remember. That feeling has only gotten worse as I got older.
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Northern Jane

Not one moment. No more than taking a breath of air when you are suffocating.
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tinkerbell

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sd

Nero, relax, you are doing the right thing and you know it.
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Sheila

I never had any doubts at all. I was even on a plane for 23 hours and a day and half in my hotel room to think about it. All I ever thought about was the after surgery and getting home and being who I was suppose to be. NO, no doubts what so ever. It has been 5 years and I still don't have any regrets. NONE.
Sheila
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Wendy C

Havent got to the surgery part yet but prior to the HRT I would have taken a sugeon that did next day service. I'm not sure if you would call it doubt, I rather think of it as being cautious and planning my transition, although sometimes the transition overules your planning. I think since HRT and medication for depression/anxiety/ansgt I have learned to pace myself better. The headlong rush without thinking, ie DIY HRT, has been replaced by a mostly smooth transition with forethought. Just my 2 cents worth. Hugs

Wendy
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Ms.Behavin

No doubts at all.  More like a little girl say 5 years old waiting for chirstmas to come.  That's not to say I've not pondered on why I was this way.  But after waiting such a very long time,  Nope Not a doubt.  Gee I practicely danced into the prep area of the hospital.  Christmas did come for that 5 year old girl,  Just a few years later.

Beni
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Butterfly

No doubts at all.  I've known what I am since I could reason.

QuoteThere's no going back

Why would I want to "go back"? 
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Just Kate

I was laying on the operating table for my orchidectomy after receiving the anesthesia and a flash of inspiration came to my mind.  It said, "Right now, right this moment, you can get up and stop this, you could stop this right now and only right now."

I didn't for better or for worse.  But that was my last thought before the surgeon went to work.
Ill no longer be defined by my condition. From now on, I'm just, Kate.

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Alyssa M.

I tend to have doubts about any major decision. Then I go for it and don't look back ... well, I try not too. Same for starting hrt, and everything else I've done towards my transition, for that matter.
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another.

   - Anatole France
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MeghanAndrews

Nero, I promised myself I would take care of any lingering doubts, fears, concerns before I ever put a hormone in my body. I was not going back. FFS was the same way. I had no regrets at all. That was major, major surgery and the recovery was tough, but it was worth it :) No regrets here!
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Jeannette

I had tons of questions. Don't know if you read my thread "Ruminations before GRS" but no doubts about getting it done.  Same thing with the mones.
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Miniar

I think, that a little doubt is healthy. I mean, it does imply that you understand just how big this is, and how much  this'll change, and how "final" the change is. It's one of these things that you need to seriously think about and be "sure" you want to do before you do them, a part of being sure is to consider All the possible outcomes, and thus, you have doubt.



"Everyone who has ever built anywhere a new heaven first found the power thereto in his own hell" - Nietzsche
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