just when i thought i was getting into a position to start moving forward, my gf now decided she doesnt know if she can be with me 

sorry dont mean to be twisting

I am verry sorry for you salvin it is tough thing to have

but it is a common theme and you have to look at it as your the one transitioning and not her.

It sucks really, really, really, really bad when stuff like that happens.  Happened to me once.  I'm sorry.

yeah it really does suck. managed to sit her down and talk to her eventually. she says she really wants us to be ok, but she doesnt know if we will be. she gonna try though.
will just have to see what happens, the worry will be in the back of my head though

You have to do what is right for you, without the worry of how it affects other people, unless you have some sort of obligation to those people.