I know it hasnt been all that long since I realized I'm a girl but the more I look back the more I see ive always known but just didnt understand. I know if I want things to change for me now I need to tell my parents because nomatter how they reackt im sure they will want me to go to therapy seeing how I don't have the money to pay for that it's a good thing. I just don't know how to bring up this topic with them. then again there is the worst case where I get kicked out and have nowhere to go but lets not think about that. Is telling them now the best idea or should I wait untill after college when I move out?

Therapy is a good thing, especially for dealing with things like, well, how to handle your family situation. If you're in college, you might have some access to counseling services that could help you out; you might want to seek out the advice of other transgendered college students to find out what the best options are. Coming out to parents is probably the hardest part of coming out. It's a lot easier to come out to close friends, and they could give you support for dealing with your parents. If you are really afraid of a very negative response from them and you depend on them, perhaps you can wait until you can become more independent (financially, socially, etc.). But when to come out, especially to parents, is a very difficult and personal decision, and i couldn't hope to tell you when is best.

Best wishes,

~Alyssa

Quote from: Alyssa M. on March 26, 2009, 05:22:27 PM
Therapy is a good thing, especially for dealing with things like, well, how to handle your family situation. If you're in college, you might have some access to counseling services that could help you out; you might want to seek out the advice of other transgendered college students to find out what the best options are. Coming out to parents is probably the hardest part of coming out. It's a lot easier to come out to close friends, and they could give you support for dealing with your parents. If you are really afraid of a very negative response from them and you depend on them, perhaps you can wait until you can become more independent (financially, socially, etc.). But when to come out, especially to parents, is a very difficult and personal decision, and i couldn't hope to tell you when is best.

Best wishes,

~Alyssa

It really would be hard to add more to Alyssa's comments. Most colleges do have support groups on campus and as long as you are able keep your GID to a dull roar it would probably be best to wait until you are out of the house. Hugs

Wendy

Thanks for the advice. I've been trying to get a hold of my schools LGBT but I haven't been having much luck. All the contact info i have found is old and i have class during the meeting times.
I'm also kind of apprehensive toward going to a meeting. I know its completely illogical but ever since I started telling my friends. I just get the feeling every one knows and they are judgeing me with the worst posible reactions.
I think the best thing for me to do is wait till im out of the house but im not sure if i can last that long.

~Luna