After I go to my therapist I feel down and like there is something wrong with me. Always feel I have to make conversation it does not just come to me in the session. I don't trust her and I believe  she doesn't trust me. Our conversation just suck I mean allot of times we ended talking about things that we already have been talk about and they just drag on forever. These sessions are not cheap maybe I was hoping for to much.

I don't know this might be the problem she diagnosed me with generalized anxiety disorder it has been three sessions and I haven't been to a DM to get meds for the condition. I also self medicating I don't this might had affect on our relationship.  My therapist is 80 miles the next closest a 130 miles in Tennessee.
Other people seem to like her.

Should I tell her how I feel?
Should just quit going to her?
Should I do?


Thanks for any help,
Anna

Hi Anna

i can relate to your plight, i was a self medicator for quite sometime abiet i arranged all my own tests ect but that should not affect your relationship with a therapist i always feel. I consulted many before i decided on my last and current and all of them were happy and understanding of my previous situations. Perhaps you might discuss this with her and see where or why you feel that way.

I do dont know if you also write your notes down but i found going to therapy with your bio and lots of points ready to read out helped me so much to progress.

There is also such a thing as a bad therapist though but give it a try and see if it helps.

I will talk to her about my feelings about therapy with her at my next session. I don't believe she is a bad therapist because she has helped others. I'm just kind of scared because if she not the right therapist I would feel like I wasted that time.

How long does it usually take for a good rapport develop?

thanks,
Anna

I would get the sessions around to what you rally wish to discuss more and then see if your rapport picks up and also then see how you feel Anna.

Maybe some of this is born out of frustration at the moment at lack of progress but i am sure it will improve

The thing about therapy is that not all therapists are the same and not every therapist is right "for you".
I'd talk to her and see if you can get her to refer you to someone you might get along better with.

i felt the same way when i first started going. i talked to my therapist and told her...she said it was normal and i gave it some more time. the feeling went away once i started trusting her more and saying more.

but then again, she may not be the therapist for you. i found out that my second one was better for me. good luck in whatever you decide!

My first felt that way a lot, my second only a few times, but my third I was surprised when we ran out of time. It takes time, even with people you meet it can take a bit for a relationship to really develop and that is what you are doing here is developing a relationship.

I've had several diffrent therapists over the years, and not all have been the right fit.  Some have been terrible.  If they are not helping with your problems, you should transfer to a new one.  It's weird that they are so far away from you.  And that there is only one therapist in that one town your current therapist is at.

At any rate.  When you get the right therapist it's incredible.  My current therapist is the best.  I trust her completely, and she seems to be on the same wavelength with me, so I'm getting a lot of stuff done in therapy.  I feel bad for the next therapist after her.  The bar has been raised a ton.

I think I am going to stick with her.  I think the anxiety and just frustration from what I feel things are moving slow just get to me. I think she a little disappointed that I didn't get the anxiety medication which I need.  I'm hoping to get a lot from therapy so when I get let down from a session it is upsetting to me.

Anyway thanks from your input,
Anna

I would recommend clearing the air with her, telling her what you wrote here, then start fresh. Being brutally honest helps and if you can't answer a question she asks say so. Like Ms Delgato said write notes down between sessions, I do and it really helps me by not going over things multiple times. In the beginning my therapist would ask questions and i would answer, but as time went i do most of the talking. I self medicated 7 months before seeing my therapist, he was concerned for my health but it made no difference in our relationship.

Paula.

Anna,

Hun, look the therapist right in the eye and tell the God's honest truth about EXACTLY how you feel.  You're paying for the session.   You have the right to do this.  Honesty is a must, Hun, so just speak your mind.

The people above gave you really good advice; namely, hang in there and see how it goes.  If, after several sessions you still feel uptight, say so to the therapist again.  Take it from there depending on what they say.

At some point, you may have to switch therapists, but give this one a good and honest chance.  Personally, I think you will eventually get in the groove with therapy, but it really can take a while.  Remember, these issues are really heavy, and it can take a while to get comfortable talking aobut them.  Really.  I feel the same way you do.  Many of us do.  You're NOT the only one!  Hang in there, Hun.

Good Luck!

Hugs.