I'm wondering if I'm alone in whats happening, or preseve as happening. Before I came out and was still "faking it" as a guy I always considered myself bisexual. Since I came out and started transitioning (I'm still pre HRT), Living full time as a female. I've noticed that my orientation seems to be changing. I'm looking more at guys than I ever have before, and thinking more about them in terms of a romantic, or sexual partner. My interest in women, in that way, has waned considerably since I've began living fulltime. Have any of you been feeling this way this soon. I mean I know estrogen will have that effect.......not sure if thats part of the real me thats emerging or not.
I'm not complaining, or worried. I'm just curious.

-Bri

Quote from: Brianna on April 06, 2009, 11:11:11 AM
I'm wondering if I'm alone in whats happening, or preseve as happening. Before I came out and was still "faking it" as a guy I always considered myself bisexual. Since I came out and started transitioning (I'm still pre HRT), Living full time as a female. I've noticed that my orientation seems to be changing. I'm looking more at guys than I ever have before, and thinking more about them in terms of a romantic, or sexual partner. My interest in women, in that way, has waned considerably since I've began living fulltime. Have any of you been feeling this way this soon. I mean I know estrogen will have that effect.......not sure if thats part of the real me thats emerging or not.
I'm not complaining, or worried. I'm just curious.

-Bri

I'm pretty sure that estrogen does not have that effect.  Plenty of women have estrogen in their system and have no interest in guys.  That said, it's definitely something that happens for some people so you're not alone in it.

It is an awakening and acceptance of something that was always there before.  Hormones has nothing to do with sexual orientation.  If it did, then gay/lesbian people could be cured by taking hormones.  Doesn't work that way fortunately.

I didn't mean to imply that estrogen/testosterone is any kind of cure for anything. That was merely what I was told would happen after being on HRT. Homosexuality is not a "disease" to be cured. Its just how people are born, and diversity is what makes life so awesome.

Ashley315, I kind of thought thats what was happening.

Sometimes the hormones allow you to unlock your true sexuality, but it will not change it itself. There are several people on here that have experienced similar, including myself. It doesn't happen for everyone though, some are/were very stuck in their sexuality.

Quote from: Leslie Ann on April 06, 2009, 04:26:10 PM
Sometimes the hormones allow you to unlock your true sexuality, but it will not change it itself. There are several people on here that have experienced similar, including myself. It doesn't happen for everyone though, some are/were very stuck in their sexuality.

Stuck in their sexuality?  You can't be serious.  I'm not stuck in anything.  I'm proud to be a lesbian.

Hormones had no effect whatsoever on my sexual orientation. Was Bi/Pansexual before and the same afterwards.

Perhaps the change that people mention occurs when their real sexuality is repressed in some way?

Even though I call myself Pan.  I have always been straight.  And now after a year on HRT, I am still straight.  I enjoy men.

Just an awakening of my true self allowed that.

Janet

Quote from: Ashley315 on April 06, 2009, 07:01:19 PM
Stuck in their sexuality?  You can't be serious.  I'm not stuck in anything.  I'm proud to be a lesbian.

I mean that your sexuality is locked in, sorry, my brain decided to take a break. I definitely did not mean stuck in place like it should change, just that is it has a solid foundation and not going anywhere. Your sexuality was set in stone. My sexuality was set in ice cream, which melted and now floats around like a broken compass unsure of which way to point.

Quote from: imaz on April 06, 2009, 07:36:40 PM
Perhaps the change that people mention occurs when their real sexuality is repressed in some way?

That is my thinking. Some can unlock it by being accepting, some need help with hormones to unlock it.

Quote from: Janet Lynn on April 06, 2009, 07:46:38 PM
Just an awakening of my true self allowed that.

Rather similar I was. For me I realized I could actually show an interest in guys without getting my tail kicked. My interest in the female of the species does not seem to be as strong sexually, which annoys me greatly, but in the same the wanting/etc for a female's presence (etc) is still very much present. So as I see it, when I realized I was basically bi(or pan if you prefer that designation) when I initially started coming to grips with this condition is still accurate.

To clarify, I do not really consider this a "change" (although I identified as "straight" previous) rather simply accepting what I was "all along".

For what my thoughts are worth.

Maybe being more comfortable as your true self has an effect on your sexual desires. Romance and caring hopefully has nothing to do with anothers gender.

I think it's a large part of just opening your mind/self to a ways of thinking that may have previously been repressed.  I considered myself 100% attracted to girls only until a few months ago when I decided to tackle this trans issue head on.  I'm not even on hormones yet and my own preferences have started to change.  I'm still attracted to women, especially on the relationship level, but I can't deny an attraction to the idea of sex as a woman with a man.  But as far as a boyfriend goes, I'm not sold on the idea .

I've never had a sexual attraction to a guy before HRT nor has that changed since.  I have always been able to say, "that guy is kinda cute, and I can see why someone would find him attractive."  but that is as far as it's ever gone.  I just don't find them sexually interesting.

Quote from: Ashley315 on April 08, 2009, 08:15:47 PM
I've never had a sexual attraction to a guy before HRT nor has that changed since.  I have always been able to say, "that guy is kinda cute, and I can see why someone would find him attractive."  but that is as far as it's ever gone.  I just don't find them sexually interesting.

I'm not sure if I'm really attracted to men or just have a fantasy about having someone take the 'male role' with me in sex (which I'm fully aware a woman can do as well...).  I'll probably try it once or twice and see what happens.

edit: oh, and I definitely still don't feel like the male body is attractive at all (if I did maybe I wouldn't feel so awkward about mine...) it's more of an attraction to how it could... affect me.  It's a really selfish perspective -- I have no interest in being... reciprocal.  If you know what I mean .

Quote from: Bryce2009 on April 08, 2009, 10:33:47 PM
Every so often I meet a woman and feel an amazing attraction towards her - not from the pov of the false male persona I used to wear, but from this inner feminine perspective I used to repress but now privately embrace.  The whole feel is different.  It's desire for a woman from a decidedly womanly perspective.  Sounds complicated, and I guess it is.  It is something new and unexpected.  But I have never felt any kind of attraction for men however.

My attraction to girls has always been from that feminine perspective and has always been part of how I dis-identify with men... or at least the stereotypical way that men are attracted to women (which from my experience most men do match pretty accurately).  I want to be with a woman, as a woman... it feels so much more natural to me to be that way, than to be with a woman as a straight man.

Well, if you look at most gay/lesbian couples, there is usually one that does take on more of a "male role" while the other takes on a more "female role".

Hormones change you sexually, I about fell on the floor laughing, sorry 🙂 Now hormones have changed my secondary sexual characteristics and now that I present female I find it easier to have a relationship with men, I just couldn't do it presenting male, my hangup, in fact recently, the men I have dated are a lot of fun, I really like being treated like a lady. My orientation didn't change my ability to enjoy it has, Thank You HRT 😉

I'm not uncomfortable around men, in fact I find it rather cute when they try their best to get my attention and flirt with me.  That's just as far as it goes, it's cute, not sexy, not intriguing, and surely does not make me feel any more like a woman that my wife does.  I don't need a man to justify or complete my womanhood.

No change in sexual preference here.  I've always been straight.

Quote from: Ashley315 on April 09, 2009, 06:50:58 PM
I don't need a man to justify or complete my womanhood.

By saying this you're implying that all hetero gals like myself are only attracted to men to "justify" or "complete" our womanhood & that isn't true.  I kinda find it offensive to tell you the truth.  It's the same as saying that identifying as lesbian justifies or completes a lesbian trans woman's womanhood since only women and females can be lesbian.  See where I'm going with this?  you don't find men attractive because you aren't hetero & I don't find women attractive because I'm not lesbian.  That's sufficient . The rest is just semantics.

My two cents is that it's more about acceptance than the hormones themselves.  I think the more we feel like ourselves, the more we learn about ourselves. 

Quote from: Jaimey on April 09, 2009, 08:19:34 PM
My two cents is that it's more about acceptance than the hormones themselves.  I think the more we feel like ourselves, the more we learn about ourselves. 

Agreed.