Well, I did it.  I dropped letters to my brother and sister in the mail today.  Now the wait.  Coming out to my friends was easier.  I didn't put in the letters that I now hope to live fulltime and get surgery.  They have enough to deal with learning that I am TG.  I'll hit them with TS later.

My parents are dead.  I don't have contact with uncles, aunts, cousins.  My neice and nephews will learn about me from their parents.  My 35 year-old daughter already knows (and supports me fully ).  So my siblings are the only family I had to tell.  Fingers crossed.

The next big test will be standing in front of the church and announcing I want to pursue a lifelong dream - becoming the woman I've always wanted to be.  My minister is supportive.  I've already told my closer church friends, and they are all supportive.  Still, it won't be easy.

Isn't this process fun? 

- Kate

Congrats on being able to tell your siblings! I hope you get a good response!

I got a nice letter from my sister.  She is OK with it but a little worried for me.

I got a voice mail from my brother.  (I wasn't home when he called and he's too busy to get hold of easily.)  He said: "I hope you're OK.  I hope you're well.  I hope you're great."  So he's fine with it, too.

I think both figure it's my issue and doesn't affect our relationship any.

One more step in the right direction.

- Kate

Yeah, a great reaction!!! I'm glad for you!!! 

I haven't had a bad coming out with anyone yet.  Now I'm just kicking myself for not doing this years ago..  All that wasted time I could have been happy.  Oh well, better late then never.

Just came out to my brother in law yesterday and it went great.  He really wasn't surprised.  He said he noticed that I never really fit in with guys and that when we all got together it was like I was forcing myself and trying to fit in.

I was out to all my family from a very early age. My one sibling, my brother really disliked me, though that was more out of jealousy than for my gender issues.

Quote from: Ashley315 on April 06, 2009, 11:27:00 PM
He said he noticed that I never really fit in with guys and that when we all got together it was like I was forcing myself and trying to fit in.

Story of my life .

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I haven't had a bad coming out with anyone yet.  Now I'm just kicking myself for not doing this years ago..  All that wasted time I could have been happy.  Oh well, better late then never.

I think about that sometimes, but then I realize I'm very different than I was when I wanted to do this before - much more connected to others and understand myself better.  And this is a different time; the world is a different place.  Better late than never, but we all have to do this at our own pace and when we're ready.  No regrets.

"The only joy in life is to begin." - Cesar Pavese

- Kate

Cesare Pavese per favore!

Quote from: imaz on April 07, 2009, 09:02:19 AM
Cesare Pavese per favore!

Oops.   Wrong nationality.  (Italian, not Spanish.)  Mea culpa.

Quote from: K8 on April 07, 2009, 10:32:34 AM
Oops.   Wrong nationality.  (Italian, not Spanish.)  Mea culpa.

LOL!

Glad your siblings could be of help, i tried to tell mine but she being the brat she is ignored me and walked off when i tried, then again im kindof glad, shes not exactly someone to trust ha! Kudos to your success!

Coatl, it probably helped that my siblings are evidently quite a bit older than your sister.  Perhaps at her age she is just focused on herself and isn't interested in you.  Indifference s better than a bad reaction.

I spent Easter weekend at my sister's.  She never brought up anything to do with me being TG.  I was a little hurt by that but figured it is her way of dealing with it and she needs more time.  At some point, after the hormones really kick in and I am living fulltime (hopefully), she will have to deal with it.  In the meantime, I feel I should be gentle with those I love and who love me if they need that.

- Kate

yeah most probably the reason there.

Im glad to hear shes taking it well, it does take time I wish you all well in your transition!