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Cross Dressing or dressing for the target gender.

Started by cindybc, February 06, 2009, 01:49:57 PM

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cindybc

Quoteut generally I cant remember that dressing pretty have made me excited. That only happens when I sit down and start to fantasise. And to get excited I need to have a certain feeling, Clothes help get this feeling, like a catalysis. With other people it is usually only if I sense that they truly are exited with ME, the mental connection. I'm very little concrete in this regard. But I like having orgasms. I thought for the longest time, I discovered on this board that this was not the case, that I would loose my ability to have orgasm if I transitioned. And sometimes that is the only thing that make me get past the days. It is quite normal for me to nothing else the whole day, maybe up to 10 times. The penis might be bleeding, but don't care about that. It is like a decease at times. It is also that I am afraid of the testosterone working on my body. So if I continue doing this it does not work on my body, but goes out instead.

Hmmmm It might be that many TS are to embarrassed to talk about this topic with others, even other TS.

I was as you mentioned lived for the orgasm before I began transitioning. It actually felt like a curse more then anything I could call a release. It felt more like I was a slave to the holy weenie.

After I began HRT, hormone therapy, the urge eased up and I was no longer a slave to the holy weenie. Mind you after a couple of years on HRT the weenie tends to remain limp, but still get some honest to goodness out of this world orgasms, dry orgasms. Even now post-op I get some really intense orgasms. You don't need a limp weenie to have orgasms.

QuoteI have lots of clothes in my closets, but just some few of it I use regularly-and my style has been remarkably similar the whole time. I even have a good portion of sexy lingerie that I have gotten on impulse. But never use it. I have tried garterbelt and stockings under the skirt outside a few days. But I dont know. It was fun the first time. But I've found it is no point when no one can appreciate it or know about it. So much prefer a normal thick pantyhose. I like the idea of having them though, since I hope I will mature one day, to use these stuff, but still I feel like a child,  but maybe someday I'll grow up :)

Hun I don't think that makes you much different then most other Tgirls on this board during their early part of their transitioning. You learn in time more about the styles an fashions that suit you through experience observation and comparison as you progress along during transition

Cindy
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Naturally Blonde

Re: Cross Dressing or dressing for the target gender? what does that mean?

I'm transsexual, therefor I don't cross dress and female atire is the normal proceedure for me. 
Living in the real world, not a fantasy
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cindybc

As do I Naturally Blonde, but in previous years before coming out full time and dressing in privacy as the (target gender) the desired gender (female). Then going out dressed or presenting as male for the rest of the world, this is called cross dressing. I believe most of us have cross dressed on ocasion at one time or another before coming out full time.

After nine years living in the female role it is also normal for me to dress as a female without second thinking it, except for what should I wear today? Like something that is pleasing to me but also what I know will be attractive or pleasing to others. It is wonderful feeling to get compliments from others about our appearance, and there aint nothing wrong with that, it's woman thing eh.  ;D

Cindy 
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colormyworld

I'm not trying to point fingers or cause controversy, I was just lurking and thought this was interesting! :D  I was thinking, "Okay, so what IS crossdressing" (at least in my terms, not the dictionary definition, or whatever) and I came to a conclusion that 'crossdressing' is pretty much just a term for wearing clothing that is opposite to the clothing that the stereotypical male or female 'should' wear.

So I'm a born female, I own a lot of clothes from the young women's department, I own quite a bit that would be considered "unisex", like T-shirts and hats and stuff, but I also own some clothes from the young men's department (Hey, sometimes I want a pair of pants that actually COVER my rear end and are comfortable!)

So my thinking is, why get so caught up in what is stereotypically 'right' for you to wear? I understand that many women's tops are made to fit women's curves or whatever, but let's face it, some of us are a lot more curvy than others, or curvier in different places, not everyone has the same body ratio. Heck, my mom doesn't understand how I can wear men's jeans 'because they aren't made to fit your hips like women's are', but somehow I make it work, and it's more comfortable for me than a lot of women's jeans that are made SO tight and LOW! Why not just wear what YOU are most comfortable in? Why worry if something is feminine or masculine and just wear what makes you feel most like YOU? 


Just my two cents!
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cindybc

But of course hun, wear what you feel comfortable in, I feel comfortable in stereotypical women's clothes, always did, for a good many years when i was in the comfort of my home or visiting another town where no one knew me. I believe I passed quite well, no one paid me to much attention.

But even when I wore men's clothes it was dress pants and dress shirts or sports shirts, and patent leather shoes or Oxford shoes. Even when I was going through the lowest point of my life living on the street I was meticulous about being clean shaved, and wearing clean dress pants and dress shirts, Oxford shoes and of course my brief case, I carried everything in that brief case like a purse.   

Unfortunately there is also the fact that some TS have difficulty passing as females and wearing, not overdone but something that is more appropriately female looking goes a long ways of helping them to appear more like the female gender.

For example I was at a voice therapy class with my mate last night and one of the girls was crying and said that the security person called her a sir. She said she was getting it all the time. Well I takes a look at her and she's wearing jeans that looked much like men's jeans when you really don't have that much hips anyway. She was wearing a halter top but didn't have much in the way of boobs. She also wore a sweater over it, a sweater that could have been a mans sweater in appearance. And the voice.... well at least she was in the right place to do something about that. Stereotype shmereotype, if you wish to look like a horse then you better wear a horse suit at least.

Some TS girls may have an the advantage of looking incredibly like the gender they have chosen to be and still look like they are girls even if they were wearing farmers coveralls and knee high gum rubber boots, a straw hat,  and chawin the chawin tobaccie and walking like a lumberjack holding a Mcculluck chainsaw over their shoulder and driving a monster truck.

Some of us are not that lucky.
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V M

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imaz

Quote from: colormyworld on April 21, 2009, 11:40:37 PM
I'm not trying to point fingers or cause controversy, I was just lurking and thought this was interesting! :D  I was thinking, "Okay, so what IS crossdressing" (at least in my terms, not the dictionary definition, or whatever) and I came to a conclusion that 'crossdressing' is pretty much just a term for wearing clothing that is opposite to the clothing that the stereotypical male or female 'should' wear.

So I'm a born female, I own a lot of clothes from the young women's department, I own quite a bit that would be considered "unisex", like T-shirts and hats and stuff, but I also own some clothes from the young men's department (Hey, sometimes I want a pair of pants that actually COVER my rear end and are comfortable!)

So my thinking is, why get so caught up in what is stereotypically 'right' for you to wear? I understand that many women's tops are made to fit women's curves or whatever, but let's face it, some of us are a lot more curvy than others, or curvier in different places, not everyone has the same body ratio. Heck, my mom doesn't understand how I can wear men's jeans 'because they aren't made to fit your hips like women's are', but somehow I make it work, and it's more comfortable for me than a lot of women's jeans that are made SO tight and LOW! Why not just wear what YOU are most comfortable in? Why worry if something is feminine or masculine and just wear what makes you feel most like YOU? 


Just my two cents!

Have to say I agree with you :)

I live with two lesbians and they dress pretty much anyway as do I.

Personally I think a mixed or androgynous look looks cool and sexy and in my case far more feminine than if I was to dress up in what's generally considered a "traditional" female way.

The only time I really dress feminine is to go out to a club with friends and then it's more for a laugh than anything else.

Being male, female, masculine or feminine is more than just about gender specific clothes IMHO.
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