CoolJ, your bro IS the coolest! Also, it's great that others are cool with it too, except for your wife. Been there and experienced that one too, Hon. Know what, though? Can you blame a spouse for freaking a bit ... or a lot? Put yourself in their position. How would the news affect you?
Your spouse may or not come around. Time will tell. If she does decide to leave eventually, there are others out there who will be cool with you ... just the way you are. Really. Hugs!