Something I have never really considered, I pass as a woman very well, so my treatment is very much that of a GG. Men hold doors, stand when I stand etc. etc.

Right, same here.  I pretty much avoid discussing gender issues unless somebody else brings it up (if they already know my history) or I'm in an environment that's specifically for discussing it.  Why?  Because talking about your gender issues forces people to look at you differently than other people of the gender you are trying to acclimate to.

Melissa

This thread prompted me to compose a piece at:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,5311.0.html

within the forums, my blog actually.

I had many problems dealing with other benders early on.  It was especially acute when I thought the association would prove me to be just like them. 

Cindi

Thanks Kimberly for posting this! (Dunno why I didn't see this thread before.) It's very good and if the situation warranted it I'd print it out, go over it with a hiliter, maybe even cross out/annotate one or two things, and hang it up on the wall.