Alright then. The contiuing saga of me and Mariah(my 15 year old daughter). I picked her up from where she is living now, to go up to see a friend of hers almost an hour away. So she decides she has questions. At first I'm thinking this is good, she wants to understand a little more. She firsts wants to know why I am going to Oregon in October. She says "is that where all the transsexuals are"? I'm like they are everywhere not just in Oregon. She asked me about some of the people on this site whom I have spoke of. Then she asks me if I am having "both" surgeries. I told her yes, but decided to explain the difference between the bottom surgeries, and what it was I was going to have done. So she just blurts out "it you have the one where they give you a penis, are you and Pam going to have sex"? I nearly ran off the road(not really) but I did in my mind. I was like I already told you that is not the option I am going to take and I told you why. Ofcourse she continued to persist on the question at hand. Wanting to know if that is something that was going on between Pam  and I. I did everything possible to evade such an answer, but then it was like she cornered me, I felt like I was in a courtroom on the stand, so I just said alright, alright,! "yes". Now what? Maybe she should be a lawyer or something. She just let me know she doesn't agree with all of this, then not recognizing that after all surgeries I will be a man to everyone in  every way. She keeps saying God does not make mistakes. I keep saying I never said He did. This is just the process one goes through with a teenager in denial. But I still love her.

                                              Marco

Don't crash the car Marco.   I bet I was one of the people you spoke of.  I just hope you told her good stuff about me.   It's good that she's at least communicating with you.  It doesn't sound like she's in denial or even angry.  Give her time.  It sounds like she loves you, but she is adjusting to a very unusual situation and it sounds like she's doing quite well.  Just be honest with her and reassure her that you still love her.

Melissa

Thanks Melissa. Yes, you are one of the people I spoke of. How did you guess? I also mentioned your Myspace, then later she wanted your URL. She must have forgotten later though. I'm sure she will bring it up again though. I think for the most part she is handling it well. She also had informed me she had told the friend od hers about me that she had went to hang out with yesterday. Her friend had no problem with what I am doing. She treated me the same when she saw me. I told Mariah that the people she choses to tell won't care what I am doing, and it won't affect their friendship.

                                              Marco

Can't personally relate to having an inquisitive kid, but my friend Brian interrogated me a few days ago about the ins and outs of TS... it was a little unnerving, especially when he kept saying he didn't understand what I meant. What's so tough about it?

At least Mariah is trying to understand. That's better than blocking it out altogether.

Rafe

Rafe,
   yea, she is trying to understand, but I really was not comfortable talking about my sex life with my 15 year old child!

                                  Marco

Well, when you're changing sexes as a major part of your life, you can't really help but talk about your sexlife.  I understand your trepidation, but remember that she's almost an adult too and probably already know more about sex than you think.

Melissa

She is a bit of a prude. When I used the term "sexdrive" she was like what? And outside of  "having children" my sexlife has always been that of a male. So that would be even harder to explain to her.

                                        Marco

Maybe it's time you had "the talk" with her then.  After all, you were/are her mother.

Melissa

Melissa,
    I couldn't even talk to her about that female puberty thing. Thank God she already knew what was going to happen with that. And when my second daughter Madison did "that" at 11 years old mind you she too knew what to do and what was going on she never even told anyone. We just figured it out.

                                                      Marco

O.K. Melissa...let me enlighten you on Marco and his communication skills when it comes to "private matters" and his kids.  When I read your post about having the "talk" with Mariah, I laughed.   Marco said, just read what I put.  Well, he didn't tell the whole story.  Mariah had to learn about her period (as you notice, a term Marco won't say) from health class at school.  When Mariah tried to discuss it with him, he squirmed.  When Madison, his second daughter, started, he made Mariah have the talk with her.  Now when Jennifer starts, it will be on Madison's shoulders to have the talk.  A kind of 'pass the buck' process.

He's too funny!


Pam

OMG, that is too funny.  Such a typical man.

Melissa

i agree with you Marco man i had to explain it to my cousin because she had no older sisters and her mom thought it would be more comfortable for her if it came from me WHAT WAS MY AUNT THINKING its not easy .

as far as talking to your kid about your sex life and a sex change you cant say its the same i mean most parents don't need to tell their kids that they are a woman or a man right? so i can understand that you need to explain the whole sex change thing ,but i dont think children have the right to ask about their parents sex life that is not their business