Quote from: Andrew on May 17, 2009, 02:22:09 PM
Once I transitioned, though, people started seeing me as a guy. It made all the difference. Now I'm comfortable with what I have and so are my male partners, because I know they don't see me as a girl. (They're queermosexuals. ) I think it takes two things: (a) seeing yourself, and having others see you, as a guy, and (b) experimenting with yourself before you try anything (particularly front-door sex) with someone else. (It''s not something you want to go into blindly...!) Anyway, hope this is of help to you...

I don't think any amount of experimenting is going to help me. I've had front-hole sex almost exclusively all my life. Somehow, when I was nineteen, I figured out a way of coping with it. After I came out of the closet, the hang-ups came back. They never really left; I had just buried the heck out of them.

But I think you may be right on the first point, at least as it applies to me. My voice is still dropping, and my facial features haven't altered much if at all. I haven't had top surgery yet, and I still need to lose some weight. Right now, some people read me as male and some people don't. I myself feel like I'm in the androgynous zone, and I freaking hate it.

When I change my perceptions about myself and when I'm read as male virtually all the time, then perhaps I can make progress on my anatomical issues. 'Cause right now, I don't seem to be making much headway at all.

You give me hope, though. Thanks.