Hey everybody it's been too long since ive been on here, anyway something i've been wondering lately with the various things goin on in my life right now (non-transition related) how many of the people here hav felt the need to rely on a "screw 'em all" kinda atittude to deal with life wen ur down on ur luck or low on support? I know i hav.

Claire xoxo

Nope, not me.

I find such an attitude self-defeating.
It just makes you angry.

(It may work for you, though.)

Suppose you do screw them all, what then? Nothing changes. It's kinda vicious circle like that. Focus on getting what you want, which you can do anyway without the aforementioned screwing. The others will take care of themselves. 

I don't take it to mean "screw them" as in "get them" or "pay them back"

i certainly wouldn't agree with it if that were the meaning

I took it as "forget them" or "disregard them"

In that context, I wholeheartedly agree. Outside the three people who share my home, my take is "you are entitled to your opinion, you are not entitled to inflict it upon me" - in other words, if you dislike or disapprove of me...oh well.

I took it more in the sense of being angry at "the world" or the PTB or whatever. Never did me any good at all, they simply don't care. But Laura is right about who cares what those people think that disapprove.

Quote from: Claire on June 10, 2009, 05:16:08 PM
Hey everybody it's been too long since ive been on here, anyway something i've been wondering lately with the various things goin on in my life right now (non-transition related) how many of the people here hav felt the need to rely on a "screw 'em all" kinda atittude to deal with life wen ur down on ur luck or low on support? I know i hav.

Claire xoxo

Watch out DANGER DANGER, be carefull please but yes "screw em all" in the sence of live your life and down worry to much, but you do need love and support the other option is dpression and self half and thats not good.

Get a theropist, couseller. If you in the UK go to the HNS and explain to your doctor....

Please look after your self

Love Lucy

LOL My libido is wicked -- I read "screw 'em all" and my libido said, "that's not a bad idea; it could be a lot of fun."

Bad girl! Sorry for that. I couldn't help it!

Sorry yea I meant it the way Laura said (or maybe Gothique ) i dont want revenge or anything but i mean to say i wont give u the time of day if u disregard me or look down on me. I find my patience for educating the ignorant or suffering fools has run completely dry !! Ayways i gess its a way of surviving in a very negative situation and i only think this way wen everything goes wrong at once and i hav a really bad day. (like yesterday)

Claire xoxo

II have a little different view of the ignorant masses and try to live by it.  A friend once told me to "not let them rent space in your head".

When I started, I had the "Screw You" attitude, but that was hurting me.  I looked angry all the time.  Now I always look in the mirror and say "Good morning, Beautiful".  That brightens my day.  Now I use the "God! You would think that they have never seen a Goddess before" when I get people staring at me.


Bad girl, Gothique.  That will get you a reputation that you don't want.    That is my goal after SRS........NOT.

Janet

To the degree that you say that with bitterness and hate it will kill you, but to the point that its a shorthand for "well, despite what you think I'm going ahead and doing what I believe in" then its pretty much the only way to live.

Hi, Claire,

If what you really meant by "screw 'em all" is as what is in Laura Hope's quote here, then, yep!  I'm with you all the way on that one. 

By the way, I LOVE your avatar!  That we could all look like her and be that young!  Great, great choice!  Lucy's avatar on this page also knocks me out ... for the same reasons!

Don't let 'em get ya down, Hon.  Keep your head held up high.  Respect yourself, and their opinions won't matter in the end.  Good luck.

Quote from: Laura Hope on June 10, 2009, 06:35:22 PM
I don't take it to mean "screw them" as in "get them" or "pay them back"

i certainly wouldn't agree with it if that were the meaning

I took it as "forget them" or "disregard them"

In that context, I wholeheartedly agree. Outside the three people who share my home, my take is "you are entitled to your opinion, you are not entitled to inflict it upon me" - in other words, if you dislike or disapprove of me...oh well.

yeah i meant it that way i just didn't articulate it that way

not to rub it in but i'm younger than my avatar looks  , but unfortunately look nothing like her

claire xoxo

Quote from: Janet Lynn on June 11, 2009, 10:48:38 AM
A friend once told me to "not let them rent space in your head".

I like that.    Don't let others determine what you are.

Be nice to those around you.  If they don't return it, that is their problem not yours.

- Kate