My name from no on is Asianelle.  I have a bit of a problem and need some help from all of the supportive ladies out there (any in New Jersey).  I have come out to only myself and a few of my web frends that i am a cd/tv.  I am caught in a crossroads.  I am happy with my male side, Samuel, but i so want to be a woman to.  I don't know how to tell my girlfriend and i don't know if she will accecpt this new era of me.  Asianelle has been around for some time and i feel that she needs to be completed.  I need to find someone who is a great make-up artist and photographer so in case Asianelle must disapper I have something to remember her by.  I love dressing sexy in high heels and pantyhose.  I love short skirts and sometimes curse that i have boi parts.  I love women and only are attracted to women, so much i wanna be one.  I have a wardrobe, i have a few ideas of who Asianelle should be.  so please help me!!!

Wellcome to Susans Asianelle,

You sound very similar to me as I like my male and female sides. I started with skirts etc and now I need to learn more about makeup.


Alice

    Hello Asianella... Iam new her aswell ,just looking to talk with others that are "like" me and not be riddiculed or abused. And from what I have been reading we are amung friends.                                                                                                                                                          Rednek X Dreser           

Welcome Asianelle -

I am also okay with my male side and I really enjoy my feminine side as well.

I am in the midwest so I don't know of anyone in the New Jersey area.

Talking with your girlfriend can be risky no doubt.  I didn't tell mine until after we were married.  When I look back, I wish I had said something sooner.  Fortunately for me, my wife is accepting and generally supportive so it is a non-issue.

When I told her, I did so slowly.  I first told her that I liked the feel of wearing panties and sometimes a nightgown.  I let her get used to the idea.  Slowly, when the time was right, I let her know more about me.  I think this approach helped her not be overwhelmed.  We have been married almost 20 years and just recently, we spent several days out of town with me dressed full time.

Good luck!

Deniseann

Hello Asianelle.

Welcome to Susan's.  As you can see it doesn't take long to get acquainted with the friendly members of the site.  While I don't know of any members in your area I'm sure there are many here who are close by.  Check out our main page and see if you can find the information the your are looking for there.  In the meantime was your thread for replies.  Don't be afraid to participate and ask questions as you have here, as you have nothing to fear on this site.

Chat later.

Steph

Hi Asianelle

Take a opportunity to enjoy your fe-male side. It´s very interesting and a pleasure can be a male or female, as you want.
It´s very normal, sometimes think about our gender, we can feel a new sensations and feelings. Is important to discover what really are you feeling about yourself, maybe is time to make some changes or not.
Follow your heart, and walk slowly. Be yourself always and the others respect you.

I´ll hope you find the best way for you

Bye

Hi Asianelle, welcome to Susans.  Many of us here are quite happy to want to express our feminine sides without giving up our male side as well.  As you can see, I am a more "mature" CD.  I am happily married to a wife who accepts my feminine side, although I did not tell her until many years after we were married.  My regret is that I did not tell her sooner.  I would urge you to seriously consider telling your girlfriend.  She may leave you and she may not.  Do not wait until you are married to tell her.  That will do neither of you any good and will only make it harder for both of you.  As to how to tell her, there are several sites that give some good advice.  One bit of advice is to tell here when you are not dressed enfemme.  I do not know about breaking the news "gradually"--just sit down with her and tell her that you enjoy dressing as a woman, then be prepared to answer her questions honestly.  Over time she will probably have more questions and will have mixed feelings about this.  Honesty is always good advice.

Louise

Hi Asianelle,
Glad to meet you.
Although it is hard you should tell your girl friend so that she can get to know the rest of you. Hidding something is never a good idea in a relationship. It only leads to pain and suffering.  Take Louise advise and do it sooner rather that later.
Welcome to Susan's

Jillieann