Wow, everyone is missing the point, or not paying attention to what I said. Our relationship is not one of a married couple. she has told me she can't have a romantic relationship with me, but can love me as a sister/best friend. Of course, we have history. Whether we legally seperate or divorce is a possiblility, but not a foregone conclusioon. She has gone through meno-pause, so, I don't think there is a chance of pregnance. We are grandmothers. Of course,there is jealousy, it's natural. she is also a bit jealous of my friendships, always has. Also, I prioritize our time together, so we aren't talking every weekend, or something like that. I encourage her to meet people (guys) and, she will at her own pace. Our situation isn't ideal, but our connection is real, deep, and important. I appreciate the advice, but please read my previous posts for the background before you cast judgement.