Now I don't intend for anyone here to bare their soul and confess in front of the whole world, please stay anonymous, but it would be good for everyone to simply vote, without leaving a comment if they are so inclined.

Personally I haven't lied to either one of my therapists or any of my doctors.

Steph

I haven't lied either.  I want to be happy and if they don't have the correct information, they can't treat me correctly.

Melissa

Same. If I didn't tell the truth, I couldn't be assured appropriate treatment.

Dennis

I have never lied to my therapist.  But now my medical doctor is an entirely different thing, I never tell the truth to her about how I feel or any reactions to medications I am on.

Sarah L.

No I have never lied to Dr. D.  how coud I? what for?  Lying to a therapist is the same as lying to yourself.


tinkerbell


P.S.  love you my angel without wings    you know who you are!! 

Straight out lying, no. I'm as annoying, honest and verbose with my therapist as I am with you all.

But I do often find myself trying to translate my feelings and ideas into her belief system, into terms she'll understand. I constantly fear that her misunderstanding me will prolong the wait for an HRT letter. Some of my ideas and views are controversial enough on here as it is... and although I think we're all saying the same things in different ways, I don't necessarily want to risk an HRT letter putting that to the test with her.

AND, I once feared that her idea of a "true TS" required a history of compulsive crossdressing and whatnot. I don't think so now, as she's assured me she knows "everyone is different." And yet, if it takes wearing panties to our meetings to prove what *I* already know to her, then I'm wearin' em

After nearly 51 years of lying I don't want to lie to anyone ever again.

It's the disgust with the lies that I have lived and am living that is a main driver towards transition.

If you want your life to not work - fill it with lies.

helen

Ummm, what would one lie about?

Robyn

Quote from: reikirobyn on July 20, 2006, 07:36:52 PM
Ummm, what would one lie about?

Robyn

Well, for some of us who are a bit, shall we say, uncoventional, there is a lot to lie about, or rather, omit.
I mean, I can really see a therapist rushing to give consent for hormones after she hears that I love my p****.

Nero

NO, I will not lie. I may not tell all that I am think unless he ask.
Like Helen, I have lied to myself for 50 some years and I won't do anymore.
It wasn't worth it than and still isn't.
So NO not for any reason.

Jillieann

Quote from: Jillieann on July 20, 2006, 08:12:23 PM
NO, I will not lie. I may not tell all that I am think unless he ask.
Like Helen, I have lied to myself for 50 some years and I won't do anymore.
It wasn't worth it than and still isn't.
So NO not for any reason.

Jillieann

Agreed.

Chaunte

No lies from me. Esspecially yesterday when I knew I needed help.

Alice

No, No, and NO!!  how can I get help with my other issues if I lie to my theripist?  Im a really screwy person and I know it..... (nightmares, insomnia, depression, formerly morbid depression, formerly suffered from anxiety attacks....and the list continues....)  If I lied to her, about anything... One I think shes very perceptive and would be able to tell, and two, what would it really gain me in the long run.  LoL,  I have my referal, and I have my perscription... and Im makeing progress......

Truth never lies, and in the end Id rather be embarresed, or hurt by the truth than hide behind a lie.


<P.S.> it dosnt mean that I dont BS with people LoL, thats diffrent.

Mayhaps the question should be more along the lines of, "would you lie to your therapist if you HAD to in order to get a letter?"

Naturally, there's little motivation to lie if we trust our therapist's skills OR if we already have our letters OR if we're confused and trying to figure out if we're really TS or not. In those situations, the beneficial therapist/patient relationship is preserved and works well.

It's not as simple if you already know who you are and don't entirely trust that your therapist will reach the same conclusion. This creates the antagonistic "gatekeeper" scenario, where the therapy process is compromised by a need to please the therapist.

Would I have lied to get letters like they had to do back in the 70's and 80's where you had to fit their classic definition to get treatment?  I'm sure I would have, if that were necessary to treat my condition.  But this is modern times and I didn't need to.  Also, if there is still one of those therapists around, you can always find a better one.

Melissa

m not sure what the truth is. 

I would to get HRT. Or find it blackmarket. I'm no saint and it wouldn't harm anyone.

lying isn't going to get you anywhere.  they will spot you from a mile away anyway.  they know who is & isn't real.  haha

Lying might get you letters, but you wont be any closer to your goals.  A therapist can help in your mindset, which is key to transition and inner peace.

Janet

I answered "no" because I've never needed to lie. Who I am is plainly a genuine, full-fledged transsexual and anyone can see that. All I need is to just be myself. I've never pretended to be girly-- because I really am girly.

Now, if they still had the rule that you have to be heterosexual to transition, then I would have faked having a boyfriend, because that rule was simply unjust and I would feel no moral obligation to observe it. Thank goodness that's obsolete now. So I can see no reason to ever lie about who I am.