Just wondering if anyone's noticed this. Here is my example:

Yesterday my gf and I broke up because she was treating me awfully ever since her ex came back to her home town. We were only dating 6 months this time, but we dated previously for over a year and she's the only girl I've ever been in love with. I put my everything into this relationship, it was somewhat long distance, about 60 miles, and I always drove down there. Today I found out that he (her ex) proposed to her while we were still dating. He has hit her in the past and she chose him over me. So normally I would be very upset, but I haven't cried at all. I'm only filled with rage.

Thoughts? Anyone else experience something like this?

Hmm haven't tested it lately. I know I did after my surgery, but that was early on.

I'll turn on Lifetime and find out. 

Rejected.

I've been on T for 3 months, and I just moved away from home (2700 miles away) for the first time, leaving behind 17 years' worth of life and friends as well as a family that both loves me and makes me feel incredibly guilty for doing what I'm doing - and all of it completely alone. My last week has invalidated your theory roughly every 5 hours.

(that's not to say it might not be true for you, of course. But then, wait a week and see if it still holds true. Despair is fourth in the grief-stage line-up.)

I think that T has made it very difficult for me to cry, but my experience COULD be explained by steadily increasing happiness.

Still, I don't think so. Or it's a combination of factors. Before T, I cried a lot. After T, no.

When my ex broke up with me a couple of months ago, I sure as heck didn't cry, and I still haven't. He's had a few episodes of extremely mean and petty behavior since then--he's not an a$$hole generally, but it does happen when he's very very stressed--that normally would have made me cry. Nothing.

When I was remembering some particularly painful memories, I sort of leaked around the edges, but I didn't really cry.

A few times, I have felt very low and actually wanted to cry. On one occasion, I knew that I really needed to let go, so I spent a few hours getting in touch with my feelings and was finally able to cry all out. It was hard, and I had to work at it. All the other times, I only experienced a little bit of that "leakage" that I talked about--a couple of tears and that's it.

I did have one particularly traumatic thing happen that made me cry a little, but I wonder if I would have really let loose if I weren't on T.

I have been steadily becoming happier and more confident, though. So that is probably an influence. But I have read about research studies that claim that T makes it harder to cry. I don't know how accurate these studies are--you would have to poke around a bit and find out.

I wasn't exactly prone to crying pre-T.  Exception to this would be the year before I started T, when I was kind of a mental wreck.  Then, the waterworks happened on a much more frequent basis than usual (maybe once or twice every couple weeks).  Basically, everything would build up, I'd want to release it in the usual way (violence) but resist because I was trying to get over my tendency to beat up everything in sight.  The frustration and anger ended up in prolonged waterworks.  Anyways.

Post-T, that frustration is gone.  However, I have had some rather sad moments in the past few months when I really felt like I should be crying (even wanted to cry).  But I just couldn't.  The only time I managed to was when I got the news that my grandmother had unexpectedly died.  I very much felt like I wanted to cry and managed to do so for perhaps three minutes.  It's just... hard to carry on like I used to be able to when upset.

For me it's not impossible, but the threshold is definitely higher than it used to be. Before when I would get angry, the waterworks would start on it's own, and I'd be powerless to stop it. Now when I get angry, I get angry.

Quote from: Randy on July 13, 2009, 12:21:59 AM
For me it's not impossible, but the threshold is definitely higher than it used to be. Before when I would get angry, the waterworks would start on it's own, and I'd be powerless to stop it. Now when I get angry, I get angry.

Yeah, this has happened to me, too. I used to cry or come close to crying when I got angry. Now I just get angry, nothing else.

Nope, I still cry.  I find I don't shed a single tear at a sad movie anymore- I am totally sobbing or nothing at all.

It wouldn't make it impossible to cry, it's just that increased estrogen is what makes you cry frequently.

I pretty much never cry... ever. But, since coming out to my husband there have been more tears than I've had in 10+ years combined. I've been on T mostly through this, but I've just started too.

Gods know I can't wait for that effect of the T... the reduced emotional rollercoaster thing that is.
I know that my depression is a factor in this but I find I break down in tears with little provocation, sometimes for no apparent reason. If T makes that even just a little lesser.. I'd be happy for it. Really happy!

I actually read something about this once.. Not in a hormone therapy/->-bleeped-<- context in particular, but rather just in a broad male vs. female type article.   It was probably one of those stupid articles on the Yahoo homepage that I read to procrastinate at some point but it was something to that effect that women expect men to react in the same way they do (I think the example given in the article was crying over the death of a dog or something like that) but that due to testosterone men just don't cry (as much)  or it takes  A LOT MORE (typically...) to make someone under the influence of T cry.

Quote from: GnomeKid on July 13, 2009, 12:43:31 PM
I actually read something about this once.. Not in a hormone therapy/->-bleeped-<- context in particular, but rather just in a broad male vs. female type article.   It was probably one of those stupid articles on the Yahoo homepage that I read to procrastinate at some point but it was something to that effect that women expect men to react in the same way they do (I think the example given in the article was crying over the death of a dog or something like that) but that due to testosterone men just don't cry (as much)  or it takes  A LOT MORE (typically...) to make someone under the influence of T cry.

Heh. My ex breaks up with me: no tears. If my favorite cat died, I can almost guarantee that there would be waterworks.

Almost.

I don't really remember making this.. but I think I was using this as a way to rant just as much as I was asking a question heh  . But yeah, I should've stated I don't mean it's literally impossible, it just takes a lot more

I 100% agree with you. I can not cry what so ever. I just get angry. I still get sad. But not sad enough to cry, and if I do cry its one tear which I try so hard to produce and thats it!

It does do my head in as I believe everyone should cry once in a while..

But I just can't. Guess this adds to my frustration also!

Jay

Damn I can't cry now and I'm not on T

I was on T for 55 years and rarely cried. But I contribute that to social conditioning. I cried fairly easily when I was younger but soon learned the consequences of what happens when a boy cries.

I've been on E for a couple of years (T is immeasurable) and cry a bit more but it's still hard for me.

Julie

Quote from: Jay on July 13, 2009, 02:53:55 PM
I 100% agree with you. I can not cry what so ever. I just get angry. I still get sad. But not sad enough to cry, and if I do cry its one tear which I try so hard to produce and thats it!

It does do my head in as I believe everyone should cry once in a while..

But I just can't. Guess this adds to my frustration also!

Jay

I can imagine.

Though it might be a good thing for me, considering I never feel good after a cry, haha.

Quote from: Monty on July 13, 2009, 04:49:23 PM
I can imagine.

Though it might be a good thing for me, considering I never feel good after a cry, haha.

Boy, yeah, I never felt good afterward. Starting last year, I started trying to get in touch with feeling good after crying. For me, it was all attitude. I got to the point where sometimes I did feel better. And now I don't really cry. Maybe that's why natal males like to go to the batting cages.

Since starting T its defently harder to cry. I broke up with my gf of 2 years - no tears at all even though I felt like I wanted to cry, my body couldnt do it.

I wasnt prone to crying alot pre-t either though, maybe Im just a rock in a body........