Quote from: Tinkerbell on August 18, 2006, 11:06:46 PM

Quote from: Marco on August 18, 2006, 08:40:50 PM
Tinkerbell,
     I am perplexed! I thoughtyou would have said "yes" for sure.

                                  Marco

Oh...Marco...you see this is why I usually avoid questions like this.  I wish I coud say "yes" but I would be lying if I did.  I'm sorry, I don't mean to sound insensitive towards women, MTF's or FTM's, but this is how I am and how I feel.  I've thought a lot about this, but my answer remains the same...I would never date a woman, a MTF or a FTM, that's just me, only me, and not a Tinkerbell's law or anything of that sort. 


tinkerbell

Hey Tink,

Don't feel bad. People are attracted to what they're attracted to. I'm attracted to what I'm attracted to, and it's nothing against a person or group of people if I don't see them as dating material. There are people I wouldn't date (I think).

Nero

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Quote from: Nero on August 18, 2006, 11:40:46 PM

Hey Tink,

Don't feel bad. People are attracted to what they're attracted to. I'm attracted to what I'm attracted to, and it's nothing against a person or group of people if I don't see them as dating material. There are people I wouldn't date (I think).

Nero

Thank you handsome, you don't know how great your words have made me feel.!


tinkerbell

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Tinkerbell,
       I'm sorry I made you feel bad. I was really only kidding. You are so sweet for being concerned. That is what I love about you. Your honest compassion.

                                                Marco

It's been a while since this topic was created and since then I have had the opportunity to be with an FTM.  Knowing they were born female made me less apprehensive about being with them, but after we got together, make no mistake, but there was nothing female about him.  This really changed my perceptions in 2 ways:
1. As far as I'm concerned FtMs are 100% male.
2. It's alright for me to find men attractive.

Melissa

Quote from: Melissa on August 20, 2006, 03:25:58 PM
I have had the opportunity to be with an FTM.   there was nothing female about him.  This really changed my perceptions in 2 ways:
1. As far as I'm concerned FtMs are 100% male.
2. It's alright for me to find men attractive.

Melissa

Tell me about it! 

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Never even considered it before.

             Marco

Quote from: Marco on August 31, 2006, 09:58:39 PM
Never even considered it before.

             Marco

Before posting my previous replies, no I hadn't even considered this a possibility.  However, I've realized that I was totally wrong and that I don't think this way anymore.  The answer now is "yes I can be attracted to FTM's."


tinkerbell

So what caused this change of heart Tinkerbell?

                           Marco

Quote from: Marco on August 31, 2006, 10:16:08 PM
So what caused this change of heart Tinkerbell?

                           Marco

I guess I had always met FTM"s that were very masculine in appearance but feminine at heart and soul.  I had never met a FTM who was so sure of his masculinity to the point of behaving, dressing, thinking, talking, and breathing like any other bio man out there.   It has been very surprising and a learning lesson for myself; I honestly believe that this entire experience has made me realize that I was wrong, very wrong.

tinkerbell


tinkerbell

Quote from: Tinkerbell on August 31, 2006, 10:27:07 PM
I guess I had always met FTM"s that were very masculine in appearance but feminine at heart and soul.  I had never met a FTM who was so sure of his masculinity to the point of behaving, dressing, thinking, talking, and breathing like any other bio man out there.   It has been very surprising and a learning lesson for myself; I honestly believe that this entire experience has made me realize that I was wrong, very wrong.

  I'm pretty sure Marco's taken Tinkerbell.

Melissa

Quote from: Melissa on August 31, 2006, 10:29:41 PM

Quote from: Tinkerbell on August 31, 2006, 10:27:07 PM
I guess I had always met FTM"s that were very masculine in appearance but feminine at heart and soul.  I had never met a FTM who was so sure of his masculinity to the point of behaving, dressing, thinking, talking, and breathing like any other bio man out there.   It has been very surprising and a learning lesson for myself; I honestly believe that this entire experience has made me realize that I was wrong, very wrong.

  I'm pretty sure Marco's taken Tinkerbell.

Melissa

Melissa, I was not talking about Marco in particular, but about my entire perspective towards FTM's in general.

tinkerbell

Ok, I see.   I had a similar experience, except it was in reverse.  I was ok being with FtMs, but he was so male, that now I feel like it's ok to be with men.

Melissa

Melissa,
      Are you sure she is talking about me?
Posted on: August 31, 2006, 10:36:20 PM

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Tink,
    Are you changing your story?

Well, from what I understand, your the only strongly male FtM she's met recently.   But, I think she was saying that *you* changed her outlook on *all* FtMs.

Melissa

Quote from: Marco on August 31, 2006, 10:37:57 PM
Melissa,
      Are you sure she is talking about me?
Posted on: August 31, 2006, 10:36:20 PM

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Tink,
    Are you changing your story?

No Marco I am not changing my story, but at the same time I don't want anyone to get the wrong ideas around here.  I am posting this because you are asking, and I thought my experience would be an interesting post for those people who think like I used to, that's all.

tinkerbell

I think you have a point there Melissa. She did tell me how very different I am from the other 2 guys she knows.

                         

It is just funny to know that some would seem to know our lives better than ourselves.  As far as I know all the FTM's I know seem to be strongly male.  I should definetely start writing a diary and post every page here, so that everyone will know every little tiny detail about my personal life....


tinkerbell

Nothing against the guys, but I'd never date a FTM.  not my type of men.

LOL!!!  I cannot tell you how much I have enjoyed this thread.

QuoteNothing against the guys, but I'd never date a FTM.  not my type of men.

Maybe you should go back and read the whole thread. All it takes is one person to change your mind -- and to open you up to new experiences.

I've dated all through the spectrums, except for the male thang. If s/he has a "you know what," I am not interested, but some of the coolest people I've ever known have been guys that transitioned. For me, sexual attraction is all about the genitalia. Secondary sex characteristics don't mean much to me. So, just speaking for me, if I like the person, and they "have the right equipment," than I don't think twice about the gender role thing.

I've been the bottom in some relationships, and the top in others -- I prefer the top. When you are as assertive as me, it's tough to find someone capable of topping you.  :: sigh ::

But, it's been fun to see how other people approach this, and how we can all evolve over time.
You can teach an old dog new trix -- I saw it on mythbusters.

Teri Anne,

My first boyfriend was a F2M. It was a good experience in that I felt safe with him, but bad in the sense he was frankly an ignorant jerk.

I don't know. The other thing that bothered we is that there was frankly too much trans drama there. Frankly ONE transsexual in a relationship is enough of that. It's GBs for me.

Bri

PS - I have an hourglass figure, thank you very much.