Quote from: Laura Hope on July 14, 2009, 02:07:22 AM
(of course, if I was totally honest, I think the VERY best case was to have us be intimate with each other AND date men too but that's pretty theoretical)
I'm sorry if this offends anyone, but it is just my opinion.
That's the route my GF of 2 years and I have taken. I always was only interested in women but since starting HRT I've felt an increased attraction to men. We are very close and trust each other very much and we both are comfortable with sexual experiences. Essentially, we can both do whatever we want as long as we tell each other about it and talk about it. She'd never been with a girl (well, one with a vagina anyways), I'd never been with a guy. We just found each other way too young, she was only 18 and we were both virgins. Rather than lose her down the road (I've seen how ->-bleeped-<-ed up people who only have sex with one person their whole life can turn out, like her mom) we opted to experiment. People NEED time to find themselves. No one knows who they REALLY are at 18.
We are just way too sexual of people to limit ourselves in that way. Sex 4+ times a day, every day was pretty common last summer. We both considered ourselves bisexual and we found some very attractive people to play with us. While I still want to and will try vaginal sex, we both have come to the conclusions that we are lesbians. While there is an attraction to guys there, it just doesn't do it for me like a female does. And Britt just loves vagina =)
Who says sex is anything other than sex anyways? Religion? The government? Psh. I just don't get why people can't have sex with other people and still be together (aside from the obvious that the government wants us in families to keep the economy going). If a person truly cares about you and is truly dedicated, why does it even matter? I know it's a lot easier said than done, especially for us younger people with the way the world is today compared to 20 or 30 years ago.
I do plan on settling down, it just won't be for awhile. It's so sad to me so many people can go through life and never even have those experiences, and that so many people won't even ever figure out their true sexuality, simply because they are too scared to go against the norms and just take the easy opposite sex route. One of my roommates is a closet lesbian without a doubt. I see them everywhere around here, people are just too damn conservative. I grew up in an almost exclusively Mormon community, and the damage it does to the few people that actually aren't total idiots in the town is pretty astonishing. They are all so brainwashed that it is actually pretty scary. Even my lesbian girlfriend almost ended up marrying a Mormon there. One day religion will just finally die and maybe, just maybe then the world can finally progress past bull->-bleeped-<- like ghosts, race, sex, and sexuality. When you die you die and there's nothing and the sooner people accept that the sooner they can actually start living. Maybe religion should just become like Santa Claus, something you tell your kids about when they ask where they go when they die, but something you tell them isn't actually real come 10 or 11.
Anyways, most people here probably won't agree with that, although some of the people from my generation just might. That gives me hope. We live in a pretty crazy time with the internet revolution and technology progressing the way it is. By far the fastest changing time of any period in the world, and I say change can't come soon enough.
Also, congrats on your wife accepting you. That seems the opposite rather than the norm for people your age. Good for her being more open-minded than most. I know sooo many more girls would be gay or bi if there just weren't any stigmas. Just look at how many TS girls compared to GG girls are bi or gay. I think that says a lot right there. Stop thinking inside the box and guess what? You just might discover a little about yourself.
