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Started by Julie Marie, July 14, 2009, 10:41:48 AM

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The discussion around Julie's point has gotten fairly deep and has strayed off point, I believe.

I think Julie is saying that these people and groups are affecting our lives in very hurtful ways. Here's what I mean:

1. They justify condemning us with a 2-3000 year old book of social mores and customs in place of the established medical and psychological studies.
2. There have been studies that point to a biological basis for GID and same sex attractions. The FoF writings never touch realities like AIS and people with different chromosomal makeups. Intersexed people are not mentioned. This allows them to develop the framework to judge us as being sinful, fallen or mentally weak or unstable.
3. Taken a step further, they can justify lumping us in with those bent on doing wrong to others like pedophiles. They also then can try and make the argument that we are out to recruit others to our "lifestyle" since this is all a choice on our parts.
4. There are other religious traditions which only believe that our bodies are only a spiritual vessel, and not that our soul, spirit and purpose in life is to be determined by the organ between our legs.

From a practical standpoint, they and there beliefs affect me as follows:

a. They create a poisoned environment for a meaningful debate either in the halls of Congress or with unaccepting family members. If their focus was truly on the family, they would be centering on ways to help bring us together and not apart. Fof's words have real meaning and consequences.
b. Their words drive petitions and referendums which seek to prohibit same sex marriage, domestic partnerships and all of the real tax benefits that would otherwise have been afforded me and my partner.
c. Their words and statements also help create the environment where employers don't wish to allow health care benefits for same sex partners or insurance coverage for transitional costs. These companies are afraid of a right wing backlash against them in the press and loss of sales and profits. Of course these companies need to have more backbone.
d. Fof's words do resonate within churches across the country. Many churches don't perform same sex unions and don't accept LGBTQ parishoners.
I won't step back in a Catholic Church because of the Vatican's very similiar positions as FoF. To do so even stealth would show my hypocricy. I will find a place of worship that is loving and accepting, thank you.
e. These postions, as stated by FoF and the Vatican ruin the relationship between parents and children and between brothers and sisters. I haven't spoken to most of my family now in two years. Sure, they are personally accountable for this, but these church's bigotry and ignorance of medical science do not help.

Let me give an example here. I have a family member who is epolectic. In former days, some zealots may have believed that the person was demon possesed. Or weak. Today, of course we know otherwise. We can help the person medically. Same goes for another family member of mine with depression. Can you imagine denying these people medicine or access to health care. Can you imagine denying them the right to marry or have children? Regretfully today, this is our reality as trans women and men, be we gay or straight.

These churches are taking a medival approach to a medical and psychological reality. All in the name of either ignorance, or the desire to have an opponent to which to rally their followers and collect more contributions.

As to James Dobson being sincere or nice, let me say this. I can only judge the man's actions. I'm not God, and can't judge his character or heart. I would say, however, that anyone with psychological training should be quite aware of the studies on both gays and transgender people. This is like giving a CPA a pass on knowing tax laws. Sorry. I believe him to be "sincerely ignorant".

In closing, I would say that any church group that wants to wade into the political lobbying business or who refuses to perform all marriages ought to lose their tax exempt status. Give them a choice. Stay in your church with your discriminatory views from the pulpit, and keep your tax exempt status. Or seek to take away my civil rights, and pay Uncle Sam. Let's see what choice they make, then!
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Tammy Hope

Quote from: Maggie Kay on July 17, 2009, 10:44:16 AM
Did you read the stuff on the web page?
No, I had an appointment. No time. but I don't have to read it to be confident it features some very unchristian and likely illogical content.

It's not necessary for THAT site to be reasonable for my claim to stand.

(an aside - taking time to read it now, I think the most fun part is the bit about citing the DSM-IV in order to declar it's a "medically recognized disorder" when the same book considers homosexuality normal yet they oppose that as well. When the book is altered to "normalize" ->-bleeped-<- they will have to change that whole line of reasoning.)
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They are referenced by other religious groups as a leader in the fight against us.
Leaders in the fight against the law, I'm sure. Leaders in opinion making regarding the "sinfulness" of ->-bleeped-<- or the theology on the subject...I tend to doubt.

Being a "leader" often just means you have the biggest mouth.
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They have gone national to promote lots more than just opposition to hate crime legislation.
Again, I wasn't defending that group or it's rhetoric...i was speaking to a logical concept. Please don't think I carry any brief for EVERY person who stands against hate crimes bills.
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Honestly, I have been on their side a decade ago and I would have been one of the standard bearers. I understand them. They cannot come out and say what they really think but I have been in their midst and I can tell you that the fear that they have is palpable. 
Fear? Yes, I have no doubt of that. People fear change in general terms and usually quite irrationally. Even more so they fear change they can't understand and I have no doubt that very few non-TG people can wrap their brain around what we are feeling.

And yes, there religious indoctrination only heightens that fear.
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As for mainstream religious leaders not inciting hatred against LBGT people, consider their comments that gays are the reason God sent Hurricane Katrina or that 9/11 happened as a punishment for the nation's pro LBGT policies.  This is the linkage that God will kill people over LBGT tolerance.  Now, how much of a mental leap does it take to the next step and have the saint's do it in his name?
The sad part about those comments was there narrow focus. I understand where Falwell got that idea - albeit he had it wrong because that's the OLD Covenant in which God dealt with nations corporately which is not how he operates under the new covenant (again, within the context of Christian theology) - but even in that misapplication, God's displeasure would apply just as much to dishonesty, fraud, adultery, promiscuity, and all sorts of other sins committed by heterosexuals as well as anything that might have been done by an LGBT person. Even if you believe what Falwell did....to mention specific "sins" without referring broadly to all the rest is error (and he did apologize later and before he died he was having reconciliation meetings with at least one prominent gay activist - not that i would ever defend Falwell on the whole)

Still, I go back to the former point made a few posts ago - VERY LITTLE of the violence perpetrated on transpersons has been linked to religion or perpetrated by an overtly religious person. The VAST majority of it came in the context of sexual and recreational behavior that the people on that site you linked would condemn just as strongly.

And YET the mythology which persists is that if the Christians would just shut up we'd all be safe. That's simply not true.

And, while I'm knee deep I might as well get it out in the open - enhanced punishment under hate crime legislation has almost certainly never prevented a single attack on any protected class person from occurring. The sort of people who commit crimes motivated by hate are not worried about the provisions in hate crime bills.

And Christians, misguided as those folks who put that site up are, who block hate crimes legislation do not make it more dangerous for us because the bill didn't pass. Because the bill doesn't make you or me any safer.

The bill is, if you believe the logic behind hate crimes laws, a matter of justice. And yes yu can say those who oppose it deny us justice if that's what you want from the bill. but they are not, by killing the bill, denying you safety because that bill won't make us any safer.

All that said, YES the nasty rhetoric used by that group DOES potentially make us less safe. But I don't believe they reflect the views of any significant portion of Christians. As Sandy said, they are essentially the skinheads in the room.


Post Merge: July 17, 2009, 01:02:00 PM

QuoteIn closing, I would say that any church group that wants to wade into the political lobbying business or who refuses to perform all marriages ought to lose their tax exempt status. Give them a choice. Stay in your church with your discriminatory views from the pulpit, and keep your tax exempt status. Or seek to take away my civil rights, and pay Uncle Sam. Let's see what choice they make, then!

Yes and no. In the broader sense, I have NEVER supported tax exempt status because I think it is a bigger burden than it's worth. I do NOT think it's "wrong" - the state makes taxes allowances for all sorts of things that it thinks is good for the society in whole, such as home mortgages or education...or exempting business taxes to get the new factory to come to town. But it's just an idea who's time has passed.

That said, I ABSOLUTELY agree that if a church wants to be politically active they should not be tax exempt - but the flip side of that is once they are paying taxes those of us who disagree with them owe them a full seat at the table like any other political action group, no matter how much we disagree.

On the other hand - I absolutely do NOT think the state should have ANY say on who a church chooses to wed or not. THAT is a state dictating THEOLOGY and is a completely unconstitutional mixture of state and church. there's a wide multitude of ways to get married, and no church should ever be required to violate it's conscious to act as the state requires.

Whether they pay taxes or not.
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MaggieB

It seems that the movement is gaining strength and even has ties to GOP leadership.

http://www.bilerico.com/2009/07/first_abortionists_now_homosexuals_the_call_declar.php

http://www.interstateq.com/archives/3708/

So when I meet a Christian, how can I tell that if person is non violent or one that will gladly become a martyr by killing me?  It sounds outrageous but I fear that as we get more and more civil rights, it may become a reality. 

Maggie
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tekla

I never thought of legal provisions as a means to protect, but rather to punish.  Obviously the law does not work in a lot of cases to deter behavior, like Prohibition (both the 1920s version, and the current version). It seeks only to criminalize certain kinds of behavior and punish it as a crime.

Does it make people safer?  I guess you could argue, as many do, that having such people in jail longer at least increases safety to the degree that there is one less violent person on the streets.

What kind of surprised me, to the degree that I can be surprised, is that some fool lawyer will still try a gay/trans panic defense, because that defense admits the hate crime part is true.  Hell if I were the lawyer I'd claim up and down that no hate was involved, it was just a robbery gone bad.

I don't have to read it to be confident...
Great, I'll just tell you what it says, and hey, would I lie to you, really, trust me.

One of the things they cite, if you follow the link says this, and it's what I find scary.  And yes, they use the incorrect form of 'women's rather than 'woman's' in their text.

We are the nation's largest public policy women's organization with a rich 29-year history of helping our members across the country bring Biblical principles into all levels of public policy.

The mission of CWA is to protect and promote Biblical values among all citizens - first through prayer, then education, and finally by influencing our society - thereby reversing the decline in moral values in our nation.


All?  Doen't that mean, even the people who don't want it, and don't believe it?  Is that not cohesion?

FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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Tammy Hope

Quote from: Maggie Kay on July 17, 2009, 01:11:24 PM
It seems that the movement is gaining strength and even has ties to GOP leadership.

http://www.bilerico.com/2009/07/first_abortionists_now_homosexuals_the_call_declar.php

http://www.interstateq.com/archives/3708/

So when I meet a Christian, how can I tell that if person is non violent or one that will gladly become a martyr by killing me?  It sounds outrageous but I fear that as we get more and more civil rights, it may become a reality. 

Maggie

How many have died in this manner in the last 100 years?

Post Merge: July 17, 2009, 01:33:46 PM

QuoteI don't have to read it to be confident...
Great, I'll just tell you what it says, and hey, would I lie to you, really, trust me.[/i]

That's simply me conceding the claim because the claim did not disprove my assertion.
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Julie Marie

Quote from: Laura Hope on July 17, 2009, 12:48:37 PMStill, I go back to the former point made a few posts ago - VERY LITTLE of the violence perpetrated on transpersons has been linked to religion or perpetrated by an overtly religious person. The VAST majority of it came in the context of sexual and recreational behavior that the people on that site you linked would condemn just as strongly.

I've heard perpetrators of crimes against LGBT persons say the "Bible says......" in justifying why they carried out these crimes.  And I've heard the same justification for other crimes too.  The point is these people were brainwashed by so-called Christians that the Bible and God tell them they have the right to carry out retribution against the "sinners" and they define sinners according to the Bible and their specific religious education.  They are convinced they are judge, jury and executioners.

Groups like FotF act much in the same manner.  They make claims that are not supported by fact, stir up anger and fear in their followers and proclaim God will punish anyone who doesn't conform to their ideology.  They may not say "Go kill" but they do instill sufficient fear in some of their followers that they will go way beyond what they normally would to prevent people who are different from them from enjoying basic civil rights.  To me, that is a crime.

As for FotF not having much influence, they, along with the Mormons and the Catholic Church, were one of the three major contributors supporting Prop 8 in California. That's clout. 

(And I keep hearing these people say same sex marriages will deny them of their rights.  What's that all about?)

The FotF website condems ->-bleeped-<- by quickly equating it with homosexuality. If Dobson is a psychologist he should know being TG and being gay are not the same thing. But instead of taking the responsible approach, he makes the connection between TG and gay because he knows how effective that is in getting his followers to shun TGs (because they have demonized gays so effectively).

James Dobson may be a personable and likeable man when you meet him face to face but so was Ted Bundy. I'm not saying Dobson is a serial killer but he does things that hurt innocent people, just like Bundy did. Bundy killed maybe 35 people but Dobson's words hurt millions. Who is worse?

To me, both are evil.

Julie
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MaggieB

Quote from: Laura Hope on July 17, 2009, 01:31:29 PM
How many have died in this manner in the last 100 years?

Why go back 100 years? Is that to avoid discussing the killing of witches in Salem Mass. or in Europe? Many were homosexuals.  These were church sanctioned mainstream killings based on biblical interpretations. These same verses are still in the bible today:

Exodus 22:18
Thou shalt not suffer a witch to live.

Leviticus 20:13
If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.

Leviticus 20:10
And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.

Leviticus 20:27
A man also or woman that hath a familiar spirit, or that is a wizard, shall surely be put to death: they shall stone them with stones: their blood shall be upon them.

Now, given that fundamentalist Christians believe in the infallible word of God and reject modern science, don't these passages give them license to violence?  Is it not these very scriptures that are used by the church against our community as evidence that God hates us? 

Remember the pastor who was Alan Keyes running mate for President, Wiley Drake?
Wiley Drake, Alan Keyes' vice-presidential running mate, had declared that George Tiller's murder had been the answer to his "imprecatory" prayers.

http://www.rightwingwatch.org/content/drake-tillers-murder-answer-prayer

Now he prays for Obama's death.

http://www.rightwingwatch.org/content/wiley-drake-prays-obamas-death

He says imprecatory prayers have always been part of the Christian faith.  These are prayers to God for an enemy's death.  So with this as a philosophy, isn't it fair to connect the dots and see who really is behind some of this violence?

He is asking for others to engage in it against those who oppose them
http://www.christiannewswire.com/news/44143894.html


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Tammy Hope

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Why go back 100 years? Is that to avoid discussing...

the same reason that I don't go back to 1860 when discussing the plight of African Americans in 2009.

I don't think I can expand on my views any more clearly, and I'm certain I fully understand the other views expressed in this thread.

There comes a time in ever discussion when people are talking past each other and I believe we have passed that point.

I hereby yield the floor in this thread (unless some completely different tangent arises).


Best wishes to all, no hard feelings,
~L
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Suzy

Quote from: Maggie Kay on July 17, 2009, 09:45:14 AM
Take a look at this
http://www.massresistance.org/docs/govt09/tran_law_study/part1.html

Maggie, that is a despicable article, no doubt.  I am just curious what it has to do with Focus on the Family.  This is not from them.

Kristi
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MaggieB

Quote from: Kristi on July 17, 2009, 07:02:09 PM
Maggie, that is a despicable article, no doubt.  I am just curious what it has to do with Focus on the Family.  This is not from them.

Kristi

FoF is aligned with similar smears against hate crimes legislation.  Dobson said today:"Because the liberals in Congress would not define sexual orientation, we have to assume that protection under the law will be extended to the 30 sexual disorders identified as such by the American Psychiatric Association. Let me read just a few of them: bisexuality, exhibitionism, fetishism, incest, necrophilia, pedophilia, prostitution, sexual masochism, urophilia, voyeurism, and bestiality. Those are just a few. And I have to ask, have we gone completely mad?"

http://site.pfaw.org/site/PageServer?pagename=rww_in_focus_hate_crimes_claims



Post Merge: July 17, 2009, 10:59:43 PM

If you want to read more of FoF's hostility to transgendered people check this out:

http://www.citizenlink.org/FOSI/homosexuality/hgeducation/A000010339.cfm

It is from one of their so called experts, Jeff Johnston.

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NikkiJ

This is why I'll never eat at a Chick-fil-A...they give money to Dobson's organization.
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