Irokawa Lain*, the person in the avatar, struggled fiercely to save her identity, and succeeded, sort of. she lost nearly everything and everyone from her previous existence, and was able to go on, finally, but only as a much different type of person.



*from, Serial Experiments Lain

whoa whoa whoa.  You're NOT a cartoon character?

*sigh* back to the drawing board.

Quote from: ell on July 18, 2009, 11:58:34 PM
she lost nearly everything and everyone from her previous existence, and was able to go on, finally, but only as a much different type of person.

Sounds like both of us.

What you see is me. If I'm recognised I'II have problems. But to me this is a very important part ot transitioning. I am Cindy, see her ROAR. Then quietly go back to a little box and cry.

Said in stealth, CIA pick up.
"It's OK Obamha no one picked you on your GLTG bill poster"

Cindy, BTW how are you going Nero? 

Anyone who is so insecure or for other reasons cannot or will not show their real person should post an avatar. I recently arranged to meet a sister CD after communicating and thought maybe we could go out and about and have fun. Turns out to be not even close to the profile photo. Couldn't have been an old photo. Simply not the same person. What upset me the most is the dishonesty. The person has zero ethics. Bernii mentioned for privacy purposes. If a person does not want to show their face in certain places then don't go there. Simple.

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P.S. I'm certain my online admirers show their real pics. They aren't super attractive. Except Serge in Paris and he's a cutey. He's married darn it.

i've never understood this also. i mean your going to be found out anyways.  as for me i have been full time for almost 1.5 years so i could care less i use my real pics... same one as myspace and facebook  =-p and my real name which may not be entirely smart, but oh well.  and no im not really a princess.

same one as myspace and facebook

couldnt agree more I do the same

Quote from: NeroI'm not talking about just using an avatar of a celebrity or something, but actually showing a picture and saying it's you.

Insecurity most likely.

Quote from: Genevieve Swann on July 19, 2009, 05:08:33 AM
Bernii mentioned for privacy purposes. If a person does not want to show their face in certain places then don't go there. Simple.

Huh?  I don't post my piccies online either due to privacy reasons.  I don't want to show my face on a TG site.   Don't people have the right to safeguard their privacy online?  Don't people have the choice to decide what to post and what not to post?

As for posting piccies online, first, assume that every single person in the world will be able to see the picture, then evaluate the risk and make your decision accordingly.

The more personal the information that you put online, the more risk you incur - only YOU (nobody else) can decide how much risk you want to expose yourself to.

If I may play the devil's advocate, How do we know the person behind the avatar is as advertised?  Post a picture of someone or something other than yourself could be just a smoke screen.  Many people do it for fun, many for evil purposes.

But I do understand the need for privacy and anonymity.  Posting the picture of a famous person is obviously not the poster.  Nero isn't Jackie Gleason and Matilda isn't Grace Kelly.  They might resemble them, but they are not that person.  Or maybe they feel connected to that person in someway.

It comes down to what you willing to let be known.  And remember that once it is on the net it is there forever.

Case in point, my avatar use to be.......



Obvious I am not Goth nor am I a dark character.

Quote from: Mister on July 18, 2009, 09:22:05 PM
It's nothing but insecurity.  I can't stand when people do it.  Makes me wish I could punch via TCP/IP.

I do so love the word 'allure' - but are we talking avatars (which strictly speaking are NOT pictures of yourself, but a representation of you angel spiraling down from heaven (really, look it up in the original) so it should be something about you but not you.

As for posting pics of someone else and saying its you, the best reason is that so when the cops come looking for you they go to the other person's house and you get to make a clean get-a-way.

That's why I always use Mister's picture and Nero's picture.  When you wake up and the SWAT team is outside, just think "Damn it tekla!"

I think that the best proof that the little photos to the left of our posts are actually us is meeting us in real life.

Second best is seeing somebody on video chat. That's not quite as easy to forge with today's technology.

How do we know for sure that the "TG girl" behind the computer screen (who is not "ashamed" of who she is & always posts her pictures online ) is not some old, fat, smelly, creepy psycho trying to lure people to do whatever, eh?

"Why don't you come in and have a seat over there?"

If people have learned nothing from Chris Hansen, they at least ought to know that the 'really hot 13 year old who really wants to have sex for the first time with some middle age loser" is, in fact, some male middle age loser (albeit one with a badge and bag full of doughnuts).

Or, as a very old cartoon I love that has two dogs typing on a keyboard says "on the internet, nobody's knows your a dog."

But given time and enough writing it's possible to glean some stuff, people reveal far more then they think they are when they write.

Hell, If I had nothing to lose, I would post my life away too. 

Bit rich isnt it Matilda to believe you can go through life without no one knowing that you are trangendered. If you can hide your past life that well good luck to you but there are some that can never do that and the best way to educate people about what hell your life is going through is to post what is going on.
This works for me because i cant move where I can start new and Im not ashamed of who I am

Didnt say everyone should post a picture. Just saying some people live in a circumstance that they cant hide from there past, Dont question my womanhood, its hard enough for people to accept the change in me

Ok Matilda

Re read. Understand where you are coming from. I dont post on this site much and like to vent sometimes

Quote from: Matilda on July 18, 2009, 03:50:30 PM
I'm really, really, really hoping (although you never know around these parts ) that everyone will know that the woman in my avatar is Grace Kelly and not me.  I don't post my own pictures online due to privacy concerns.  The net is a dangerous place, and my life could be ruined if someone recognized my picture on a transgender website.   Some of us don't want to be exposed.  Simple as that. 

Grace Kelly. The queen of monaco, exactly like the move swan or something. She was once my idol when I was teens. She looks classical.

Yes. Photo can cause a lot of fuss at your work place. Somebody else posted my own photo some place in the internet. And more than 200,000 people saw it, and finally I also saw it. I will not say in detail what happened at my work place. Just saying I am now fine. I prefer sites in English, as few Koreans will visit there.

Barbie~~

Quote from: Renate on July 19, 2009, 09:51:40 AM
I think that the best proof that the little photos to the left of our posts are actually us is meeting us in real life.

I would love to have coffee with you Renate.

I am not saying it is a requirement to anything.  We post what we wish to post, period.

But this thread does remind me of,,,,
Brad Paisley - Online


And I agree about Grace.  I have always loved her.

Janet

Quote from: Becca on July 19, 2009, 12:35:04 PM
I would love to have coffee with you Renate.

Gosh! I'd love to.
Unfortunately with the distance we can only have a virtual coffee.
I've got my instant coffee here and my web cam.