hi my name is gary and i,ve been wanting to be a woman for the best part of 25-30 years but i,ve never told anyone till now. I am 40 years old and i,ve only just told the doctor and he was understanding about it but my mind is all over the place can anyone help. Just need a friend who feels the same (and this is not a joke) i live in leeds England. thx

Welcome Gemma. I'm Nero.
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Hi Gemma,

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Start by finding a good gender therapist.  And doors will open.

Janet

hi nero thx for replying. I keep saying to myself do i or dont i this is the mess im in i want to be female but faceing other people that will be very hard and not in the care pathway yet. just waiting for the psychiatrist.

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well as you can see i have already thorght of a name for myself (Gemma) a lot better than Gary and yes i would like a full sex change and not a crossdresser. thx janet i will be on this site for a long long time to talk to people and tell people how i get on with the biggest thing i have ever done in my life. How i feel at the mo is confusion , scared , feeling down

Hi Gemma,

Welcome to Susan's

I wrestled with my femininity for years. Cross dressing in my teens, etc. I had allot of fear also and still do to some degree. Now in my late forties I'm accepting who I am and am noticing that others are becoming more and more accepting of me. Self acceptance is the key 

Hi, nothing like opening pandora's box. Always starts with telling one person. Then another...then another....

Gemma, You might try living as a female 24/7 for a time. That is usually recommended before surgury anyway. As far as coming out to others that is a sure way to break the ice. Let them see you enfemme. Then say Oh, I thought you knew. Sounds too simple doesn't it. We all have to start some way.

Hi Gemma and welcome.

Gennee

Gemma , you can e-mail me direct as I belong to a european based trans forum . meanwhile What can I do here in America to help you transisition ? I'm nearly 60 and I have been out since 1994. Ellen Shaver 

Hi Gemma.  Confusion, scared, feeling down go with the territory.

Talking to your doctor was a big step.  Talking to someone else - a friend, a therapist, a support group - is perhaps the next step. 

I'm sorry, but I respectfully disagree with Genevieve Swann.  Going from where you are now to full time woman is a HUGE step.  Better to nibble away at it.  Do a little at a time, to give yourself time to adjust as you go.  If I had to go 24/7 straight from the closet I would never have made it.  Now I'm 24/7 and loving it, but I did a lot of work to get here.  Don't jump in the deep end until you learn to swim.

Take your time puzzling it all out.  There's no rush.

*hugs*
Kate