I just had a few general questions about relationships and Non-Binary Genders, Is there a lot of Non-Binaries that are attracted to other Non-Binaries or are most attracted more to Binaries? I personally am attracted to Masculine gendered Women myself, I'm Trigendered. And for other Non-Binaries, do you find dating difficult or finding dates hard? I certainly do.

Again, these are just general questions.

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Re: Relationships

Postby Kinkly » Sun Aug 02, 2009 10:43 am
I find I can be attracted to almost anyone the only people who i don't find attractive are sis male someone who is in the middle es who conform to the binary I would Love to be in a romantic relationship preferably with a female boddied genderqueer but i don't wish for a sexual relationship with anyone If I could find someone who loved me for me then there body type would not matter and if kids not possible then we could adopt

For me it's hard to find to find a heterosexual Masculine Female because most of them in the LGB and T community are FTMs or Butch Lesbian. I often wondered if being with a Non-Op transman would be a good match for me or Genderqueer. I'm not sure, it's hard. It's hard finding someone who I could have a relationship with and it's hard being Trigender in general.

Society stressess me out because it seems like everyone is Binary Heterosexual but me. Oh well, maybe one of these days I'll meet someone special. *sigh*

I've never really meet a non-binary in person. But I find I am attracted to strong practical feminine women that behave in non-girly ways (particulalry lesbians). I think I want to be girlier than they are. I fell in love with a feminine guy once, but overall I don't tend to be attracted to men. I do find guys in make-up really intriguing.

I suspect that I would be attracted to someone similar to myself i.e. male bodied non-binary, but I don't think it would be a very practical relationship. We would spend so much time looking in the mirror nothing would get done  .

All this is a bit moot being married in all. My wife is the perfect woman for me.

I, too, have never met a non-binary in person. The women I have been attracted to are strong, independent, goal-oriented, perky, passionate individuals who rarely wear makeup and generally wear pants and flat shoes. The relationship generally begins with me listening intently and nodding me head in agreement. I seem to function best in a supportive role. Often we share such activities as hiking, canoeing, or bicycling. Each complains about having breasts and about menstruation; each identifies as a woman.

I wasn't interested in dating until college, but never found it difficult. My closest friends, from childhood, have been girls and women. Rejection, though, is painful.

To date, I have never been attracted to a man, nor had this kind of relationship with a man.

And like Nicky, I am no longer looking for someone to date.

S

I think part of the attraction for me is finding someone that allows me to play a non-traditional role in the relationship.

For me I'm usually Androgynous or Androgyne rather, but it's when I'm attracted to a Masculine Female, I start to be completely feminine, like a whole different person. I've kind of talked about it in a thread on either here or whatisgender or Laura's Playground about my attraction. But anyways, I feel completely feminine and want to become the "Girlfriend" of the Masculine female who I want to be my "Boyfriend or Boifriend".

I've been trying to find more terms for this but I guess there aren't terms for this other that "Non-Binary, Genderqueer, Non-Op FTM".

When I'm attracted to Masculine Women, I don't see them as women actually, I kind of see them like how Binary Heterosexual Women sees a Cute Binary Heterosexual Male.

I remember talking to my parents and they keep asking me if I am Gay and I don't them No. Though I guess it would make more sense if I was and finding a life partner would be easier if I was Homosexual. But I am actually Heterosexual Biomale that's attracted to Masculinity.

I don't know if it's a Trans or Cross attraction or what you could call it. Non-Binary attraction I guess.

People often told me to not label or come up with terms or to overthink all this but I knew even before I realised that I was Non-Binary that my love attraction wasn't like the usual heteros around me. I was never into Feminine Women nor Do I want to be a Masculine Life partner.

It's been about 1 year of continuous research on my attraction type and My Trigender idenity and continuing.

You know, I don't really have a "type", physically anyway (like butch/femme/etc).  I don't really know what it is I like until I meet it.    ...I somehow think having a type would do me some good...I suppose it's easier to say what I don't like than what I do.    I generally prefer guys, but I am sometimes attracted to women...it kind of depends on where I am in the gender spectrum .  The more masculine I feel, the more I like girls.  The more neutral to femme (I never get very femme, but anyway), the more I like guys.  Go figure.   

It's an interesting question that certainly requires a lot of thought.  If you like butch heterosexual ladies, you should move to the Midwest (USA)...there's a long standing joke about "is she a lesbian or just Midwestern?"   

Quote from: Jaimey on August 03, 2009, 01:11:35 AM
If you like butch heterosexual ladies, you should move to the Midwest (USA)...there's a long standing joke about "is she a lesbian or just Midwestern?"   

Living in the Midwest, I know this to not be true.  Well, generally.  There's always some exceptions.

Then again, maybe I'm just accustomed to mannish women and I don't even realize it.

Quote from: Mr. Fox on August 04, 2009, 06:57:52 PM
Living in the Midwest, I know this to not be true.  Well, generally.  There's always some exceptions.

Then again, maybe I'm just accustomed to mannish women and I don't even realize it.

hehe.    It's pretty true in the South too.  They're always married...

My partner is also non-binary. I wasn't looking for any particular gender, type, blend, etc. I'm attracted to the person, not the gender. We fell in love, and have been together 13 years.

Z

My partner is non-binary also, except that I have the GID (or whatever term is in vogue these days) thing going on, whereas my partner has never had that overwhelming desire to (permanently) alter her body. Lack of gender roles and expectations was one of the things that attracted us to one another in the first place and this relationship works extremely well for both of us. We will be celebrating the 30th anniversary of our relationship this October. 

Basically I've always been attracted to people who are somewhere near the middle of the gender spectrum. I find certain male-bodied people attractive, certain female-bodied people attractive and certain trans folks - both MtF and FtM attractive. I find that I don't relate very well to people who are extremely hyper-masculine or hyper-feminine though.

Quote from: KYLYKaHYT on August 06, 2009, 11:36:23 AM
My partner is non-binary also, except that I have the GID (or whatever term is in vogue these days) thing going on, whereas my partner has never had that overwhelming desire to (permanently) alter her body. Lack of gender roles and expectations was one of the things that attracted us to one another in the first place and this relationship works extremely well for both of us. We will be celebrating the 30th anniversary of our relationship this October. 

Hmmm, similar relationship! My dysphoria, or disconnect was profound enough at one time that I transitioned, my partner has never had the desire to do so...

Maz'l tov on 30 years!!!

Z

Quote from: Zythyra on August 06, 2009, 08:18:09 PM
Maz'l tov on 30 years!!!

Thank you, Z.

Likewise, congratulations on 13 years.