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Androgyny with a gender

Started by Calistine, August 13, 2009, 07:55:49 PM

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Calistine

How many of you consider yourself to be androgynous in nature, but idenitfy with a certain gender? How many of you want to transition even though your androgyne?
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Nero

Depends on what you mean. I'm male but I have masculine and feminine traits. Maybe this is due to being raised female, maybe it isn't. I have an androgynous personality. But I am a guy and almost done with transition.
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Calistine

Well Im just confused. I just feel like being a girl today. That happens from time to time right?
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Nero

Not with me, but it's easy to get confused sometimes.
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Calistine

Hahaha its probably because I put on girls underwear because there was nothing else. I feel disgusting when I do that
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Nicky

Well, my target physically would be to be pretty much female. But mentally I don't identify as male or female.  So yeah, I consider myself non-binary in nature and consider my spectrum of behaviours to disregard any gender boundaries but I am undergoing a transition of sorts. But I am not transitioning to be a woman, though more than likely I'll end up publicly looking like one (which I do much of the time).
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Calistine

Quote from: Nicky on August 13, 2009, 09:55:15 PM
Well, my target physically would be to be pretty much female. But mentally I don't identify as male or female.  So yeah, I consider myself non-binary in nature and consider my spectrum of behaviours to disregard any gender boundaries but I am undergoing a transition of sorts. But I am not transitioning to be a woman, though more than likely I'll end up publicly looking like one (which I do much of the time).
I actually thought you were physically a woman until you said something
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Nicky

Thanks! It is not quite so clear cut in the flesh :).

I have not started hormone therapy yet. Me and the misses are thinking of having more kids so I kind of still need all my cylinders firing  ;)
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Jaimey

Hm.  Tough question.  I will say that gender fluidity is not uncommon.  Particularly in a female body, I think that wherever you are in the ol' menstrual cycle can affect how you feel...at least I think it sometimes does for me.  :-\  I am androgyne and most of the time I feel neutral to masculine, but every now and then, I'll slip a bit into a more feminine mood.  It could be a number of factors though.
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perfectisolation

Yea sometimes when I think my estrogen's high I feel more feminine, like sometimes I'll speak or laugh at something and my voice comes out way higher pitched than normal, which makes me feel like a total chick at that point.
But most of the time I feel like a dude or at most androgynous but those little moments like that it makes me go  ???
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Kinkly

I am transitioning toward female but I'm keeping the beard I am on hormones
I don't want to be a man there from Mars
I'd Like to be a woman Venus looks beautiful
I'm enjoying living on Pluto, but it is a bit lonely
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Pica Pica

I find it depends what I am up to and where I am, who I'm with. I have one friend and we are very girly together, another and I am moderately maley.
Also the time of day and weather etc seem to effect things, I feel more feminine in the morning or evening and I have most femaley feeling when in the winter as opposed to the summer.  Don't know why.
'For the circle may be squared with rising and swelling.' Kit Smart
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noeleena

Hi...
A ?   I know it may not be posible   how many of us are male andro . & female andro .  For me a mix of 60 % m 60 % f . well thats about what i see . now if i did not say what i was .  how would you tell . even after surgery .
oh. the face even that can be changed voice that too s r s & then b a . skin.   size of feet . hair or for me lack of . to me age is our detail . 62 . you younger ones have it over us .
Will i have more op.s no just what i had s r s & b a . yet even after that i am at home in the middle  really i hold both m & f . i had wondered if i would let go a bit of the m side . a few bits of the body ..  not the mind . have i gained on the f side . only what was there before . that is allowed to be out in full view.    no guys not those . oh ,,,,,,,ill put my coat on .......men ......he he ,,,.,any way just thinking ..
  ...noeleena...
Hi. from New Zealand, Im a woman of difference & intersex who is living life to the full.   we have 3 grown up kids and 11 grand kid's 6 boy's & 5 girl's,
Jos and i are still friends and  is very happy with her new life with someone.
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Eva Marie

Quote from: Sir Ari on August 13, 2009, 07:55:49 PM
How many of you consider yourself to be androgynous in nature, but idenitfy with a certain gender? How many of you want to transition even though your androgyne?

I'm definitely a male bodied androgyne. As far as what gender I identify with? It depends. Sometimes I enjoy male mode, other times it's fun to dress up (you can see my legs over on the left).  Genderfluid is the term I believe. But i do admire the feminine side of things, and if I had more fem facial features i'd definitely play with it more. I just see a dude when I look in the mirror.
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bigrift

The way I want to look ideally makes me really think I "truly" (whatever the hell "truly" means in this context) I am an Androgyne.

(Once you begin to think in terms of being an androgyne I think things begin to lose all sense of meaning in context of male/female, IMO. Androgyny if summed up in a sentence (although not really directly pertaining to gender orientation) to me would be "What if the subjectivity of the subjectiveness of the universe is subjective to my own subjectivity?" It's one of those things that you really can't define.)

Anyways, the look I am going for is that of an androgynous female, meaning a women that is trying to look "androgyne" by being more masculine (This totally makes sense to me...). Honestly, I dress in gender-neutral styles (a t-shirt and pants, that pragmatically match my combat hat and peace necklace) with more of a feminine-esque (there I go making up words again) look, meaning more "feminine" looking t-shirts. Kind of like a "butchy" sort of lesbian. I think I am more "androgyne" than "MTF butchy lesbian" because I do have a lot of more "manly" traits that women don't typically learn (not because they can't, but because I have been socialized as a male). So if you were to just look at me, you really wouldn't think "Androgyne", just like some kind of lazy stoner who wears girl t-shirts, but my inner "essence" is very "Androgyne-like". I hope that makes sense? Pretty much I think I am a trans-gendered woman who is a lesbian that doesn't really focus to much on physical gender identification, and dresses in feminine gender-neutral clothing. Or maybe I'm just an incredibly confused, mushroom-induced, crazy straight guy ????

That post is on topic, yeah? Sorry for the lack of general coherency in my posts...
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noeleena

Hi..

     Its not quite so easy . is it  To define who we are . For me i see my body . as defining in some area s who i am . yet does that show who we are . what is not seen is inside . that is not allways perceved  by some . i.v been going over this as i have been involoved with a group of people . who dont accept . others who are different . like us . they   see only what they wont to see . yet will not sit down & ask . ..tell me about your self . so i can understand you .   its not happening . so i am tolerated .
You know inside . the door is sort of open . yet .. not fully . yet in other groups.   oh wow the door is just not there so totally  different .
The other detail is you are saying if you looked more femm you would take it further.    no dought.    do you see that only just your face / body .   
or your persanaliy . what would change for you . not so much the meds .

or like for me really what you see is what you get or are we changing all the time & we dont allways see it . does your body really detate who you are .  becaues we have so much going on we some time.s miss it . you know i.m bouncing off you s .
Getting down to the nity gritty  can be quite hard . not only for our selfs
Yet in all of this we can be accepted . I wonder some times what drives us
...noeleena...
Hi. from New Zealand, Im a woman of difference & intersex who is living life to the full.   we have 3 grown up kids and 11 grand kid's 6 boy's & 5 girl's,
Jos and i are still friends and  is very happy with her new life with someone.
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Virginia87106

I identify as female but I am aware that I present an androgynous gender presentation.  It is fine with me.  That is as much of who I am as my blue eyes.
It is also fun.
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Smashley

I Identify as being GQ but I do see myself more on the males side of the spectrum...I don't mnd when people mistake me for a guy but I don't like so much when they mistake me for a girl even though biologically I am a girl.  I dunno if any of you guys feel this way...
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Calistine

Quote from: Smashley on August 28, 2009, 10:30:06 AM
I Identify as being GQ but I do see myself more on the males side of the spectrum...I don't mnd when people mistake me for a guy but I don't like so much when they mistake me for a girl even though biologically I am a girl.  I dunno if any of you guys feel this way...
Well I do but thats prob  because im a transman :P I don't think Id wanna be seen as a girl with short hair and guys clothes.
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Kinkly

Quote from: Smashley on August 28, 2009, 10:30:06 AM
I Identify as being GQ but I do see myself more on the males side of the spectrum...I don't mnd when people mistake me for a guy but I don't like so much when they mistake me for a girl even though biologically I am a girl.  I dunno if any of you guys feel this way...

I feel the same from the other side i'm bio male dislike being labeled male any time I'm labeled female it is based a pople seeing more then just my body but i prefer non gendered pronouns and the like
I don't want to be a man there from Mars
I'd Like to be a woman Venus looks beautiful
I'm enjoying living on Pluto, but it is a bit lonely
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