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Gay slang and lessons from Chaz Bono

Started by Natasha, August 19, 2009, 05:09:04 PM

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Natasha

Gay slang and lessons from Chaz Bono

http://www.indyweek.com/gyrobase/Content?oid=oid%3A399688
8/19/09

What does Chaz Bono teach us about transgender folks?

Q: I've been reading all these stories about Chaz, previously Chastity, Bono's change of gender identity, and I see that Wikipedia already says Cher has "a son ... who was born female." Even as a gay person, I'm a bit confused—especially about what's the right pronoun to use with a transgender friend. I have a colleague at work, Michael, who is now transitioning to Michelle, and we don't know what to call him (or is it her?).

A: Indeed, Chaz Bono has put the public spotlight on transgender issues in much the same way he did earlier, when he came out as a lesbian. Pause. Yes, that reads a bit awkwardly, especially the phrase, "When he came out as a lesbian." For many people, and especially those who grew up in a time or place where trans people were completely invisible, the concept of changing genders can be confusing. Actually, it's more unfamiliar than it is confusing.
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Shana

I have always found it best to address someone by the Gender pronoun they are presenting at the time, either by dress, name or action.   Unfortunately, even English has a gender bias in language... and "it" or "you" just isn't polite.
Granted, this can be a little awkward when someone is truly straddling the line, but if you sincerely make an effort most people shouldn't take offense.

Shana

PS: I LOVE your quote!!! It really made me stop and re-evaluate how I even saw myself.. Thank you.. :D
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