My Son's Mum

Sally Gorse · September 02, 2009, 11:54:15 AM

Hiya

I had a e-mail earlier stating that my ex partner has called Social Services in the Uk because im going to be Sally .

I honnestly don't know what there can say because my son is in good health and there is no law stating about anyone changin gender .

Anyone help me on this or shouldnt i worry about it ?

Thanks
Sally

LordKAT · September 02, 2009, 01:05:22 PM

Our state has a law that social services can take your child if they perceive that child to be in danger or that the child may be in danger at some time in the future. It gives them a lot of leeway. I'd say it could go either way.

Sally Gorse · September 02, 2009, 01:45:19 PM

Thanks for that ,

I honnestly don't see a problem with me bringing my son up in life , Because ive done it for the past 3 years on my own.

Ive not gone full time yet , and im def considering it , but will need to talk to a few people first .

I think it's just someone tryin to get at me for been someone i wanted to be .

Thanks for your time

Sally

rachelanne · September 02, 2009, 04:27:38 PM

Sally, If you're in therapy you might consider getting your therapist involved. If not, you might think about getting a lawyer, or at least a consultation. Unfortunately, Social Services has to look into any complaint that is filed. Be open and honest and trust that you will be in good hands.

heatherrose · September 02, 2009, 05:52:22 PM

I may be mistaken but I believe the UK governments
have a more liberal view on "->-bleeped-<-", than here in the U.S.
If this is true, you may have a little more of a legal shield to protect
yourself with, but it is obvious to me that your Ex is attempting to use
the power and principality of government, as a club against you. If she has
been able to find the ear of a bureaucrat who is "less than sympathetic"
toward those who are "gender variant", the extensive use of surveillance
cameras, being an indication, I believe, you can expect a very intrusive
and stressful experience. As Rachelanne said, I would suggest that you
arm yourself with as much professional legal and psychological muscle
as you possibly can. This challenge may become more involved and
traumatic than you are prepared to handle on your own. I hope
I am wrong but one way or another, it is better that you have
a reserve of legal support at your disposal than to expose
yourself to this attack, uninformed and unarmed.

Sally Gorse · September 02, 2009, 06:04:13 PM

Thanks for that , Honneslty , All she has got is a few Photographs of my Facebook account .

These date bk a few months ago , Nothing recent , at the moment im still in pretty much a guy .

I don't go out dressed in my home town at the moment , So there are not going to see my dressed .

I have a good record and history of bringing up my son and family can commit to that aswell .

I really don't see why im gettin uptight on this , Maybe because ive not came across this before .

Wouldnt know where to start about anything legal advice , Ive sent Social Services Surport people asking a few questions regards this without any names .

I will certantly keep you informed on this issue and in the mean time ive got to bring my son up the way i have been for the past 3 yrs .

Thanks

Sally

Genevieve Swann · September 02, 2009, 06:28:01 PM

There is probably nothing that can be done legally to harm you or the child. They don't take away a child if a parent is a drunk or sometimes worse. They would have to prove abuse.

heatherrose · September 02, 2009, 09:15:21 PM

Quote from: Sally Gorse on September 02, 2009, 06:04:13 PM...All she has got is a few Photographs of my Facebook account .

That may be all she has but with a government agency
now becoming involved, any other posting you have made, on
the net (including here) can and will be used against you.

Quote from: Sally Gorse on September 02, 2009, 06:04:13 PM...at the moment im still in pretty much a guy .

I don't go out dressed in my home town at the moment...

...ive got to bring my son up the way i have been for the past 3 yrs .

I have a good record and history of bringing up my son and family can commit to that aswell .

I really don't see why im gettin uptight on this...

I empathize with you, your gender expression should not be cause for alarm.
You have probably been dealing with your gender issues for your entire life but
to everyone else, this is a completely different side of your psyche, known to no
one but yourself. As hard as it may be for us to understand, society does not
separate gender identity from sexuality. With the welfare of a child at stake,
society pulls all stops (in some cases rightly so) in dealing with any accusation of
sexual impropriety, in any proximity to a child. Your track record in dealing with
your child, for all intents and purposes, has been erased, with this revelation.

Quote from: Sally Gorse on September 02, 2009, 06:04:13 PMWouldnt know where to start about anything legal advice

Here in the states we have legal referral services, where you can call,
tell them your situation and they can refer you to a lawyer (barrister) who
could best represent you. Perhaps there is a similar service there in the U.K.
Good luck, Lord Goddess bless you and yours.

Sally Gorse · September 03, 2009, 09:55:47 AM

Hiya

I would like to say thanks for all your response in my issue

This morning i received a e-mail with some good reponse from the surport services/Social Services .

Below is the E-Mail sent to me

Dear Sally,

Thank you for your email. If the mother of your son did contact Social Services (child and adult services) the duty team would be the point of contact and they would assess the information provided by her. If you wish to discuss your concerns with a member of the duty team you can contact them on 01429.

You are right to say that it is up to you whether you change your gender and there is also legislation that protects people who are considering or have undergone gender reassignment, particularly in employment. I have included a couple of the main websites below, just in case you would like more information on this.

www.pfc.org.uk/

www.transgenderzone.com/

If you would like to discuss your situation with people who are in a similar situation, you might like to contact Hart Gables, who are based on South Road , Hartlepool . I have included their website below.

www.hartgables.org.uk

Many thanks,

Kelly Moss

Children's Trust Manager

Maybe this will help other's going through the same as myself .

Thanks again

Sally

rachelanne · September 03, 2009, 10:36:05 AM

Sally, that is wonderful news!!!! Thanks for sharing, it is so nice when it all comes together the way it should.

Good luck to you and your son.

Sally Gorse · September 03, 2009, 10:43:12 AM

Thanks

Im certantly going to contact " Hart Gables " in my Home town for some advice in which i never knew exsisted .

Takecare all

Live up with your dream , that's what im doing

Sally x

heatherrose · September 03, 2009, 05:40:57 PM

Quote from: Kelly Moss Children's Trust Manager U.K. on September 03, 2009, 09:55:47 AM...there is also legislation that protects people who are considering or have undergone gender reassignment...

I am so glad that this situation concerning your son and your self seems to
have been defused with the help of legislation which I am sure your Ex was unaware of.
Here in the States the situation is quite the opposite. There is federal legislation currently
in place which specifically excludes those of us who consider ourselves transgendered,
from equal rights protection. I hope the continued best for you and yours.

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