I just went to the gyno 2-3 months ago, and boy was it awful! The lady was gentle, warmed up the specs beforehand, and told me what she was doing or going to do, but it was still way uncomfortable to the point of painful. After she was done she gave me privacy to cry in private and call my boyfriend cos I felt so violated... But it's good for my health, so I have to grin (yeah right!) and bear it.
She was even nice enough to get ahold of a free IUD for me, and even better, prescribed me some powerful effective pain pills to drug me up during the IUD insertion. Now THAT was painful. Thank Goddess the pills took away my memory of the day. I couldn't remember my boyfriend holding my hand, or getting me out to the truck in a wheelchair, or taking me out to some expensive chinese food. What a sweet guy he is.
BTW, the gyno told me that men make better gynos cos they're afraid of being sued if they're not gentle enough, lol. If I can find a GLBTQ-friendly male gyno for my next visit, I'll test her claim.
🙂 GDTripp