I'm sorry, but I'm not surprised. Most relationships don't survive a transition. I understand your relief. I felt that when I told my husband, even though the relationship is kind of awkward now. I knew we wouldn't last because I'm a hetrosexual male as is he. I have no interest in him sexually or romantically so that's over. But, you were honest with your boyfriend. Now you both can move on. He can do whatever and you can start transitioning without concern of losing him.

Well, the numbness is gone now. Replaced by rage. I cannot believe him. He was apparently chatting with my friend, and saying that he regretted saying what he did. Regretted it. Pardon my language, but what the hell? (would say stronger words but I'm not sure if that's allowed) It's a bit late for his regrets. He specifically told me that he has been manipulating me. He's lied to me for 5 and a half months. Now he feels bad about it? GOOD. I hope it haunts him for the rest of his screwed up miserable excuse for a life. If he's cowardly enough that the only time he could try to hurt me, is when my guard was down, when I'd just told him something that I have agonized about my whole life, he deserves what he's getting.

GRRRRRRRRRRR I AM SO MAD. i can only hope I manage to keep my cool at school tomorrow.... 

At fifteen, there is no such thing as a sane, stable, healthy, drama-free relationship.  Wait ten years and try again.

Quote from: Mister on September 10, 2009, 12:50:59 AM
At fifteen, there is no such thing as a sane, stable, healthy, drama-free relationship.  Wait ten years and try again.

I disagree... you need to add another ten on that at least! .

Quote from: Mister on September 10, 2009, 12:50:59 AM
At fifteen, there is no such thing as a sane, stable, healthy, drama-free relationship.  Wait ten years and try again.

I generally don't add posts of the form 'yeah, ditto,' but... yeah, ditto.

During teenage years, you are not going to find relationships of the depth and maturity needed to face, much less survive, a transition or the life following it.  A compatible partner for a transsexual is one who has faced, and well measured up to, the very confusing and morally frightening challenges of adult life, and who is fully prepared to bring that maturity to bear in support of another.  Such an animal is old enough to wear fur.

Conserve your time and energy for the rough and exciting ride ahead.  As for the boy... let it go.

- N

Sounds to me as if you're well rid of him.  Sorry he decided to be a jerk to you.   I'm sure you will eventually find someone who deserves your affections and will love you just the way you are.  You just may have to wait 20 years or so for the boys to grow up. 

Quote from: Mister on September 10, 2009, 12:50:59 AM
At fifteen, there is no such thing as a sane, stable, healthy, drama-free relationship.  Wait twenty years and try again.

FIFY


Aaron, Just like Mister, Ngarehu, Teknoir, Nimetön, and Jaime-o have all said: ain't nuthin' but a teen thang... (okay, I'm paraphrasing). But really, this too shall pass, and in time you'll be so glad it did.

At 30, I'm just barely starting to feel like *maybe* I can figure out some of this "relationship type stuff". And at 15, I sure as hell wasn't able to tell my romantic and sexual "ass from my elbow" so to speak. Don't give up, because in order to some day get "there" (wherever "there" may be - I think I lost my map...) you have to keep learning, keep loving, etc. But while you're learning and loving, keep in mind that "this probably isn't 'the one' just yet" at least for another decade or so (or two, maybe three? lol). Thinking elsewise just causes more hurt for all involved parties, and more bux in the divorce lawyers' wallets...

But maybe I'm just bitter and jaded?