I only reveal it to people who I trust and who I think would be nice to talk to about it.

Quote from: Autumn on September 13, 2009, 02:15:57 AM
And then she thought my friends were talking about me getting a boob job. No, they're real. "Can you feel them?"

I managed to miss this on first reading, I'm glad I decided to look again becuase it's cute  I met a new therapist the other day and we started talking about breasts. I could tell she was dying to check them out but used every ounce of professionalism to keep from asking.

I'm a little new to boobs in general and especially their ettiquette, do women often compare such things to the extent of actually touching them?

I've only had one person feel my breasts - a woman with whom I am very friendly.    It was early in my transition and they were almost all fake at that time.  She was dissappointed.  I've never had anyone even look like they wanted to touch them, but then I'm not exactly a young woman.

I've only had one person ask if my breasts are real - a man.  He knew me before transition and when I started showing up in skirts thought I was CD.  When I told him I was TS instead, he asked: So those are real, huh?

Going from presenting male to presenting female the next day, complete with B-cup breasts, I was really surprised no one mentioned them or seemed to think it strange I had them. 

Life's a trip.

- Kate

If people think less of me because I'm trans that is their problem, I wouldn't want to be their friend, work for/with them, date them, shop in their store anyway.

Right now being trans makes life harder, one day it won't be this way.  The reason it won't be this way is because we stand up for ourselves and yes that means outing ourselves sometimes.

It took me a long time to realize being trans is not shameful, it's natural, it's a treatable affliction, and if looked at without a bigoted eye anyone can see plainly that we are beautiful and amazing "creatures"

You really can't beat honesty.  And if you're somewhere where you feel like you can't be honest, then you really need to question why you are there in the first place.  Having said that, though, I certainly wouldn't advertise the fact.  In my case, the less noticeable it would become during transition, the less questions would be asked me, and the less I would need to divulge over time.  So, minimizing the questions would be my goal - not coming up with lies or excuses.  Those in my inner circle, like a lover or anyone that I'd hang out with one on one, would certainly know my past.  If I didn't think that they would accept me for me, then I wouldn't waste my time or energy on them.