Congratz on making the first step!!!

Sorry I have not gorne to therapy yet, so i can't help you. But again congratz 

Hi Myabi,
I paid $450 USD for the original assessment and $100 USD for each appointment after that. I only went a few times, perhaps because I knew very well what I wanted from the first visit and had already changed my name and been iving full time before then.

@Just - thank you.

@Kat - That is a lot less than I expected it would be.  Perhaps I could get started sooner than I expected.

My therapy cost anywhere from $75-$150 per hour. But some will work with you based upon your ability to pay.

I'm hoping they'll allow me to make payments, because if they want me to go in once a week I'm not sure I would be able to afford it.  Well I might, but I need to get my bills figured out first.  Moving into a new place is a lot of work. ha ha.

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OH!  Also, I was going to say that I've mentioned this to a few friends.  The ones I have told have been very good with it and are very supportive.  =]  Your positive reactions are what helped me face my fears and talk to my friends about it.  Thanks girls. <3 -hugs you all-

Hi! I'm young! I relate to your story so much too. Being Gay doesn't make me happy though, I feel a deeper connection with women. I always found someones outfit as cute, or hairstyle totally awesome! My mother says it is to early to say whether I am Gay or A transsexual or not. I really think she is wrong though... I am glad to stumbled across these boards. 



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Ok.  I want to chime in.  Take this as you will.

I don't think wanting to dress like girl, thinking girls outfits are cute, or wanting to have a man tell you your pretty, open doors, and take care of you makes you a transsexual.



Now, the obvious thing (as others have also said) is to see a therapist.  You need to figure out what or if there are other things going on.

I don't want to dissuade you, but I might be.  Don't rush to any conclusions.

I think (know) that you can know at a young age.  I always knew - but that is just me.  I know life isn't always that clear cut, and the only reason I didn't seek out a therapist until 19 was because I was scared to death.  My parents were scary (they always talked about how disgusting the GLBT community was).  I finally couldn't handle it anymore, and finally did tell them after having been in therapy for a long time.

Take your time, go to therapy, and really figure yourself out.  In the end, the decision is really yours and only you can know.  Good luck.

Hi Chris, and welcome to Susan's.

As others have said, you have come to a safe place to begin this exploration.  If you are truly thinking seriously about this, please explore fully!  There are few real road maps and there are pitfalls and ravines and quicksand all around you.  Being gay does not have nearly the stigma in society being TS does.  I am honestly not trying to dissuade you at all.  But if I can talk you out of being TS, then you probably were not to begin with.

This is all about who you really are at the core of your being, and about which lenses make your view of life seem right.  You may indeed be a gay male who simply has a need to visit the other side once in a while.  If so, embrace and enjoy.  If it is deeper, then you seem young enough to make your plans wisely. 

I think everyone who is anywhere on this spectrum has gone through the phase of envying GGs for the clothes they get to wear on a daily basis, makeup, and all of that.  So, just take time to check out what that means for you and don't let it be the determining factor for any decisions you might make. 

I pay $140 to see my therapist and she is worth it.  I started off going weekly.   Now I call her when I need to visit.  So it really varies. 

Honey, I truly wish you the best at this special time in your life.  Please let me know if I can be of help in any way.

Kristi

Ahhhhh!

So I'm really struggling at the moment. Like almost multiple times in the same day I feel completely feel comfortable as a gay male. Then I truly feel like I should be a girl and that feels perfectly the way it should be.

I don't get how I can feel both at almost the same time. =/ I don't know what to do!!!! TT-TT

Quote from: Renate on September 26, 2009, 07:09:15 AM
Just to inject a little bit of the other side of the matter...

I always get a bit wary when somebody wants to transition because of envy or perceived advantages of the other gender.
I realize that their reasons may in fact be deeper but they can only describe it as, "When I see women wearing pretty clothes..."

In the worst case scenario, transitioning could involve losing all your friends and never having a relationship with anyone for the rest of your life.

I like the thought experiment, "If the whole earth was destroyed by warfare and you were the only survivor, would it still be important for you to transition?"

It may just be one of the ways Chris is expressing him/herself?

I myself appreciate "pretty" girls clothes, I would never wear them myself, I have always worn business suits as an accountant........then later with my 2nd degree, I dress more casually in Social Work

Quote from: Miyabi on October 09, 2009, 02:16:58 AM
Ahhhhh!

So I'm really struggling at the moment. Like almost multiple times in the same day I feel completely feel comfortable as a gay male. Then I truly feel like I should be a girl and that feels perfectly the way it should be.

I don't get how I can feel both at almost the same time. =/ I don't know what to do!!!! TT-TT

I was married and had only ever had sexual relations with my spouse when I decided to transition. BUT, I had always wanted to be a girl from my earliest memories.
Everyone's situation is different.  You are here and safe. Ask all the questions you want. We have some gentle ears here.

Chin up!
Cindi

i am using the on line therapist recomended by nero no traval and i can schedule appointments in the middle of the night lol

My therapist is covered by insurance, I think her standard rate is around $120-130 (pretty average around here), but she uses a sliding scale for people. I see her once every 3-4 weeks at this point, and I'm not always focusing on the gender issues because it isn't really in question for me. I know the track I'm on, I talk about what I'm planning as "next steps", new experiences, and the changes I notice in myself. Other than that I talk about what's on my mind, family issues, fears, etc...just the random other problems I want to deal with. Hope this helps

And try not to dive blindly into anything permanently life altering, explore as much as YOU need to know for yourself.