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trying to figure out me!

Started by kattak, September 28, 2009, 05:39:45 PM

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kattak

Hello all... male who has been dressing to different extents pretty much all my life.  I don't *think* that I am a TS, but I can't honestly write it off.  I'm a guy who likes to wear women's stuff from time to time, with little feminine touches here and there.  But I know it goes further than that.  How far, I can't say.  Hopefully will learn something here, and hopefully can help others as well.

The past year or so, have been experimenting with going out in public wearing women's clothes.  I am starting to learn what I can, and what I can't, "get away with."  It doesn't matter to me if people notice or give me a raised eyebrow, but I can't really deal with staring, giggling, etc.  I don't make much of an effort to look female because a) I don't have "skills" in that area and b) I don't think that's me, anyway.  I don't really feel female.  Yet, I prefer hanging out with the girls, to hanging out with the guys.  I like talking sports, but I also like talking about fashion.  I look in the mirror and can appreciate and enjoy that I am good-looking as a male, but I yearn to look like a "cute" female at times.

Basically, I'm all over the place.  So anyway, hello to all, and see you on the boards.
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Miniar

yo and welcome.
There are thousands of stories around here that might or might not sound familiar to you, which might seem like a start, but in the end, only you can know how deep it goes for you.
I would suggest speaking to a gender therapist and try and figure out where you stand if at all possible.



"Everyone who has ever built anywhere a new heaven first found the power thereto in his own hell" - Nietzsche
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K8

Welcome to Susan's, Kattak.

I can identify with some of what you say.  I always resisted the idea that I was a woman in a man's body.  I was a closeted cross-dresser for much of my life.  The pressure to do more kept growing.  I was in counseling for other stuff and gradually worked toward my gender issues.  Finally, I realized I had to be open with my friends.

As I came out to my friends (as TG and CD), I started coming out to myself.  Gradually I came to understand that I wanted it all.  I've now been full-time as Katherine for over 5 months and have found - for me - this is a one-way road to completeness.

As always, YMMV.

I hope you can find what you need.  There's a lot of helpful people and information here.  As Miniar said, you will probably find it helpful to talk to someone trained to ferret out what your needs are.

Happy traveling. :)

- Kate
Life is a pilgrimage.
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Cindy

Hi Kattak,

As many different people here as there are in real life. Then again this is real life :laugh:.

Take your time, as Kate and Miniar said a therapist is a good start. Or if you just enjoy cross dressing then go for it. Nothing wrong there.

Hugs
Cindy
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Janet_Girl

Hi Kattak, :icon_wave:

Welcome to our little family. Over 3200 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another member. :icon_hug:

And be sure to check out

Blessed Be.
Janet
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Between Names

Welcome to Susan's!  It's okay to feel confused...  As others have already said, there is plenty of information here for you to use...  I know I'm glad it's here!  :)
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LordKAT

for that matter, androgyne is perfectly fine too, the feeling of being both or neither or somewhere in between is not unheard of.
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Inphyy

You could be Two Spirited and being Two Spirited is actually common in all people of all genders of all orientations!
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