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What is this forum's definition of 'androgyne'?

Started by red, October 07, 2009, 01:03:28 AM

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red

Just curious, what does this forum consider an  'androgyne'?
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Flan

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,54369.0.html
https://www.susans.org/wiki/Androgyne

generally, anyone, regardless of intent to transition physically, who refuses to define themselves under the 2 boxes of "male" or "female"
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red

I think that would be me.  I won't go into detail because I'm still not that comfortable but yah I think it describes me.  When I find some good friends here I'll gradually share more.  It's a tiny bit of a sad and touchy subject for me.  But I came here to try to understand myself more, as well as understand others.

red
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Flan

welcome to susan's then, red

feel free to explore the site (and by proxy, yourself) at the pace you're comfy with
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Nicky

Nice to meet you Red. Feel free to put your feet up.

There does not seem to be a 'standard' androgyne on this forum. We are all our own shades of grey. That self acceptance and feeling comfortable with yourself is a truely worthy thing to chase. Nobody is going to judge you here Red. If you want to discuss things in a more 'private' are you can always use the just for us androgyne forum. Only us non-binaries can view it.

Myself I am male bodied. I don't have a male gender identity. I don't have a female gender identity but I lean in that direction. My earliest memories have me not feeling I belonged - I could not fathom where all the gender rules came from and had no desire to follow them. My prefered presentation and body is pretty much at the female end of things though I don't feel I am a woman. I consider myself non-binary but feminine gendered. It took me a long time to figure things out and am still in that process - I'm in my early 30's. Currently I have had laser to remove my facial hair and have an appointment with an endocronologist next month to get some hormone therapy. But I don't think I am typical of androgynes in this regard. I am also happily married and have two kids and two cats. Just thought I would tell you this to point out that nothing is straight forward, but happiness is a real possibility.  Nice to meet you.   
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Shana A

Welcome Red! Glad you've joined us here. There are many ways to be androgyne... I'm male bodied, more female identified, also non binary.

Z
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde


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Eva Marie

Welcome red, to the unicorn forest. Since we are "in the middle" there are lots of us here with various stories to share, but we welcome all unicorns. When you get more comfortable then feel free to share your story. We won't bite  :D

Quote from: Nicky on October 07, 2009, 03:43:01 PM
If you want to discuss things in a more 'private' are you can always use the just for us androgyne forum. Only us non-binaries can view it.

There is such a thing?
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Susan

Androgyne: An androgynous person

Androgynous: Being neither distinguishably masculine nor feminine, as in dress, appearance, or behavior.
Susan Larson
Founder
Susan's Place Transgender Resources

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red

Thanks for the welcome and definition.  I was always into Pete Burns (from Dead or Alive) and Boy George.  I could always relate to them because I'm male bodied and androgynous (Have you heard that Pete Burns is getting the change?  Just what I heard.)  I made a website about him through yahoo but it's gone now.

N E way, thanks again.
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noeleena

Hi,, Red & wellcome
we are all different . there is no we are all the same . i m a mix of both male & female & happy being both . yes i had s r s & b a . so i could live as a woman yet still retain my male past .  if its past . its who i am . so just be your self .
  You ll swing both ways .   does not matter . how you go about coming out youll do it much better than i .   for me it was 11 years ago & i m 62 ... so dont worry . just ask ??   & learn like we did . & do . & grow .  the first detail is accept your self for who you are then go on from there .
  all the best & have a neat time ........
   ...noeleena...
Hi. from New Zealand, Im a woman of difference & intersex who is living life to the full.   we have 3 grown up kids and 11 grand kid's 6 boy's & 5 girl's,
Jos and i are still friends and  is very happy with her new life with someone.
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red

Quote from: noeleena on October 10, 2009, 06:45:24 AM
Hi,, Red & wellcome
we are all different . there is no we are all the same . i m a mix of both male & female & happy being both . yes i had s r s & b a . so i could live as a woman yet still retain my male past .  if its past . its who i am . so just be your self .
  You ll swing both ways .   does not matter . how you go about coming out youll do it much better than i .   for me it was 11 years ago & i m 62 ... so dont worry . just ask ??   & learn like we did . & do . & grow .  the first detail is accept your self for who you are then go on from there .
  all the best & have a neat time ........
   ...noeleena...

aww thank you so much. that is such good advice, to just be yourself.  ahh you have both parts?those kind of people facinate me and i love to talk to them because each has their own simalarities and differences.

thank you Noeleena  ;)
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red

I'm sorry this is off topic, but I just wanted to say it's been interesting reading all of your stories.
nicky and riven_one, i found the group membership thing for androgynes.  I've not been approved yet.  I hope they approve me though.  I was like riven_one at first - i was like, "what? they got private places to talk?!" lol -Red
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Nicky

Oh you might not be able to go there cause you have a male marker on your profile...

I'll ask Nero about that one.
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Flan

Quote from: Nicky on October 12, 2009, 04:19:32 PM
Oh you might not be able to go there cause you have a male marker on your profile...

I'll ask Nero about that one.
group membership should be independent of the gender selected in the "Forum Profile" part of a users profile (or, candy mountain is open as soon as the request is ok'ed)
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Nicky

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fluffy jorgen

That's unfair. I consider myself an androgyne, though I'm pulled towards the male side of everything more often than not. Looks like I'll have to take it off my profile again, just so I can view that board. ;D

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Nope, still can't view it. :(
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red

Quote from: Jörgen, on October 12, 2009, 06:27:46 PM
That's unfair. I consider myself an androgyne, though I'm pulled towards the male side of everything more often than not. Looks like I'll have to take it off my profile again, just so I can view that board. ;D

Nope, still can't view it. :(

Do you go by another name on another gender related site with a different name?
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LightlyLuke

Quote from: Flan on October 12, 2009, 04:28:35 PM
(or, candy mountain is open as soon as the request is ok'ed)

I do not see candy mountain. Who do I make a request to?

Thanks.

-- Luke
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Flan

Quote from: LightlyLuke on October 13, 2009, 09:51:54 AM
I do not see candy mountain. Who do I make a request to?

Thanks.

-- Luke

open your profile page, go into the group membership link, (under modify profile) and go clicky clicky on request membership for the androgyne peer group
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