I hope your mother comes to accept your needs regarding transition. My mother and sisters were very accepting, my stepfather wanted no part of it. He eventually came around, but not fully. Like others have said, sometimes it's just a matter of when. Regarding the counseling, I would think this is something she may need to know. Unless this has changed, I believe that at some point they will want to speak with a parent. Perhaps she will come around a bit more before then. Congratulations on your progress. It is so difficult to confront family. That's a big step. Hugs.