So my wife and I sat down a few nights ago and and talked.  We discussed what went wrong in our marriage, and my big secret from her.  It all started out as a halloween idea, Gothic Punk Vampire Female.  I have bought almost all my stuff for this.

The morning that I bought my pants (Lovely and now she wants them) she turned from a good mood to a very ugly mood called me gay ->-bleeped-<-git, and flat out told me to leave.  I didn't.  That was a day before we had a serious talk about me and us.  I am not gay but I call myself a lesbian.  I truly believe that I am a woman trapped in a guys body. 

Now that I bought almost all of my clothing for the one day, if I want to say in this relationship I need to get rid of all of my newly accuried clothing.  I want to stick with our marriage but I would be lyeing to myself if I did all of this.  I am very comfortable with myself when I am dressed as a female but I am not sure what to do.

We have been married for 9 years and have 2 wonderful kids.  Our daughter is 6 and our son is 3.  Confused yes, misunderstood definitly, NOT SURE WHAT TO DO.  I have came out to two people.  My boss at work is very nice and she doesnt mind one bit, she very open minded. 

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Personally, I think that it comes down to the wives not wanting to think of themselves as Lesbian.  And in order to stay in a marriage, that would be something they would have to do.  My ex said it over and over again, "I am not a lesbian".  But if she truly loved me then Yes she is.  And there is nothing wrong with that.

But we are friends even now.  I could hold out hope that we would get back together, but I need to move on and i have someone else in my life now.

Do what you need to, you must. to paraphrase Yoda.

I wish you luck in you journey.

Blessed Be.
Janet